Californiablonde
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So easy child has been living with his dad now for three weeks. As I posted earlier, he really fought going there. He wanted to stay living with me and stay at his school with all of his friends. He has never been close with his dad growing up and has always been a momma's boy. So he really hated the idea of living with his dad. So now that he's been there awhile, I am happy to say that he is adjusting rather well. He absolutely loves his new school. He likes his teachers, and he has already met several friends who he now eats lunch with every day. I am thrilled that he is doing so well at his new school. I was really worried about him making friends since he is autistic and his social skills aren't the greatest. But he is doing just fine and I am very happy for him.
I asked him on our weekend visit a couple of weeks ago how he likes living at his dad's. He said he likes it there because of his new school and his dad's cooking is awesome. Both my kids do not like my cooking at all whatsoever. I am a pretty bland cook. I make very simple stuff like spaghetti and baked chicken and pork chops. My ex goes all out and does his own mexican and chinese food. He makes his own salsa and guacamole. He is very creative in the kitchen. So I do give my kids some credit. When I was with the guy he did make great food. I will give him that. But I have to say I'm a little jealous. It seems like easy child and I are starting to grow apart and I don't like it.
When he first moved in with his dad, he used to text me every day. Now he doesn't text me at all. I text him almost every day to ask him how his day went. He used to answer back in whole sentences. Now I can barely get a word out of him. When I see him in person he is still the same loveable, affectionate kid towards me that he has always been, but I still feel like he is starting to become closer to his dad. My therapist thinks I'm being silly for being jealous. He says that at my son's age, it is normal for him to bond with his dad more than me. It is healthy for him to have a positive male role model in his life. I agree that my son definitely needs his dad in his life for guidance and direction. If they are getting closer then I truly am happy. I just want to make sure the strong bond we have always had together will not be broken. I was thinking that having my son live with his dad would be only temporary. I was hoping he would be able to attend high school where I work and he could move back in with me eventually. But now I realize that my son is getting used to it there and he probably won't ever want to leave. If that is the case then I can accept it. I just wish it didn't feel like I was losing my baby boy in the process.
I asked him on our weekend visit a couple of weeks ago how he likes living at his dad's. He said he likes it there because of his new school and his dad's cooking is awesome. Both my kids do not like my cooking at all whatsoever. I am a pretty bland cook. I make very simple stuff like spaghetti and baked chicken and pork chops. My ex goes all out and does his own mexican and chinese food. He makes his own salsa and guacamole. He is very creative in the kitchen. So I do give my kids some credit. When I was with the guy he did make great food. I will give him that. But I have to say I'm a little jealous. It seems like easy child and I are starting to grow apart and I don't like it.
When he first moved in with his dad, he used to text me every day. Now he doesn't text me at all. I text him almost every day to ask him how his day went. He used to answer back in whole sentences. Now I can barely get a word out of him. When I see him in person he is still the same loveable, affectionate kid towards me that he has always been, but I still feel like he is starting to become closer to his dad. My therapist thinks I'm being silly for being jealous. He says that at my son's age, it is normal for him to bond with his dad more than me. It is healthy for him to have a positive male role model in his life. I agree that my son definitely needs his dad in his life for guidance and direction. If they are getting closer then I truly am happy. I just want to make sure the strong bond we have always had together will not be broken. I was thinking that having my son live with his dad would be only temporary. I was hoping he would be able to attend high school where I work and he could move back in with me eventually. But now I realize that my son is getting used to it there and he probably won't ever want to leave. If that is the case then I can accept it. I just wish it didn't feel like I was losing my baby boy in the process.