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I just want to run away from home......permanently.
difficult child 2 has been in the community theater productions for 5 years now. That's his "thing". As they were rehearsing this year's play, they realized that it would look better if there was a REAL person playing the dead body. difficult child 2 asked difficult child 1 if he wanted to and difficult child 1 was so excited, we normally have separate activities because of the competition and "territory" factors. difficult child 2 has tried some of difficult child 1's activities but didn't like them so it was never an issue really. difficult child 1 has never tried any of difficult child 2's activities so this was a first......and a surprise that difficult child 2 would even want him to considering he is constantly saying difficult child 1 embarrasses him. Anyway, they've been doing great.
Last night, difficult child 2 spent the night at my mom's with my sister and niece. Needless to say, he didn't get much sleep. difficult child 1 went to his horseback riding practice then went to rehearsal late. As soon as he got there, difficult child 2 hid his shoes. difficult child 1 got mad so difficult child 2 finally told him where they were. difficult child 1 got bored waiting for his turn on staage and was twirling some prop guns on his fingers. difficult child 2 came in after his part was done and took them away from difficult child 1. difficult child 1 let him. When difficult child 1 came back from his part, he asked for them back. difficult child 2 refused and difficult child 1 was "stuck" so they started wrestling over them. difficult child 2 hid them and difficult child 1 did his "tough guy" act to try to intimidate difficult child 2 (difficult child 1 is 4'8" & 70#; difficult child 2 is 5'10" & 190# so you can imagine). difficult child 2 grabbed difficult child 1 by the back of the neck and squeezed. difficult child 1 texted me to come get him. He came out with his entire costume (his own set of clothes) and said he quits. Keep in mind they start performances tomorrow. When difficult child 2 came into the van, he immediately apologized to difficult child 1 who had confided in me that he hates his life and wants to drown himself.
difficult child 2 has always been difficult child 1's "safety" and he's emotionally attached to difficult child 2 (though he'd deny it) and was so honored that difficult child 2 wanted to share HIS activity with difficult child 1. Then he does something so immature and mean. When I try talking to either one of them to explain the other's point of view, NEITHER of them seems to be capable of it. That seems to be the only Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) trait they share and it drives me absolutely bananas. I just want to give up. I don't know what to do to get through to either one of them.
I know, things have been overall positive but then we have days like this and it's almost like PTSD for ME!!
difficult child 2 has been in the community theater productions for 5 years now. That's his "thing". As they were rehearsing this year's play, they realized that it would look better if there was a REAL person playing the dead body. difficult child 2 asked difficult child 1 if he wanted to and difficult child 1 was so excited, we normally have separate activities because of the competition and "territory" factors. difficult child 2 has tried some of difficult child 1's activities but didn't like them so it was never an issue really. difficult child 1 has never tried any of difficult child 2's activities so this was a first......and a surprise that difficult child 2 would even want him to considering he is constantly saying difficult child 1 embarrasses him. Anyway, they've been doing great.
Last night, difficult child 2 spent the night at my mom's with my sister and niece. Needless to say, he didn't get much sleep. difficult child 1 went to his horseback riding practice then went to rehearsal late. As soon as he got there, difficult child 2 hid his shoes. difficult child 1 got mad so difficult child 2 finally told him where they were. difficult child 1 got bored waiting for his turn on staage and was twirling some prop guns on his fingers. difficult child 2 came in after his part was done and took them away from difficult child 1. difficult child 1 let him. When difficult child 1 came back from his part, he asked for them back. difficult child 2 refused and difficult child 1 was "stuck" so they started wrestling over them. difficult child 2 hid them and difficult child 1 did his "tough guy" act to try to intimidate difficult child 2 (difficult child 1 is 4'8" & 70#; difficult child 2 is 5'10" & 190# so you can imagine). difficult child 2 grabbed difficult child 1 by the back of the neck and squeezed. difficult child 1 texted me to come get him. He came out with his entire costume (his own set of clothes) and said he quits. Keep in mind they start performances tomorrow. When difficult child 2 came into the van, he immediately apologized to difficult child 1 who had confided in me that he hates his life and wants to drown himself.
difficult child 2 has always been difficult child 1's "safety" and he's emotionally attached to difficult child 2 (though he'd deny it) and was so honored that difficult child 2 wanted to share HIS activity with difficult child 1. Then he does something so immature and mean. When I try talking to either one of them to explain the other's point of view, NEITHER of them seems to be capable of it. That seems to be the only Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) trait they share and it drives me absolutely bananas. I just want to give up. I don't know what to do to get through to either one of them.
I know, things have been overall positive but then we have days like this and it's almost like PTSD for ME!!
