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I've kicked my difficult child out and it's killing me!
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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 70267" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Nope, you did the right thing. </p><p></p><p>He is a big boy. You have a house, and house rules. He has to follow them. If he can't, then there is the door.</p><p></p><p>What you are doing is detaching, and it stinks. It is very difficult to do. But it is necessary. He will never get the help he needs until he hits his bottom, and he won't hit his bottom if he is allowed to get high while he is in your home. </p><p></p><p>Talking till your blue in the face will get you nowhere except, well, blue in the face. These kids will not accept help until and unless they want it. All the talking and begging and pleading in the world will not change anything. </p><p></p><p>You've made the first step, telling him to leave. Attending an Al-Anon meeting would be a great help for you too. You need to realize that there is nothing you can do to change him. He will change if and when he is ready. The serenity prayer is a good tool for that:</p><p></p><p>God,</p><p>Grant me the serenity</p><p>To accept the things I cannot change</p><p>The courage to change the things I can</p><p>And the wisdom to know the difference.</p><p></p><p>We are glad you found us here on this board, but sorry that you had to. Welcome (((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 70267, member: 3647"] Nope, you did the right thing. He is a big boy. You have a house, and house rules. He has to follow them. If he can't, then there is the door. What you are doing is detaching, and it stinks. It is very difficult to do. But it is necessary. He will never get the help he needs until he hits his bottom, and he won't hit his bottom if he is allowed to get high while he is in your home. Talking till your blue in the face will get you nowhere except, well, blue in the face. These kids will not accept help until and unless they want it. All the talking and begging and pleading in the world will not change anything. You've made the first step, telling him to leave. Attending an Al-Anon meeting would be a great help for you too. You need to realize that there is nothing you can do to change him. He will change if and when he is ready. The serenity prayer is a good tool for that: God, Grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change The courage to change the things I can And the wisdom to know the difference. We are glad you found us here on this board, but sorry that you had to. Welcome (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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