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I've never met daughter in law's family. Anyone else?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 300675" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>MWM, please do some reading on Adult Children of Alcoholics. I sent you a link to a used copy of a book called "The Laundry List" that is incredibly helpful in opening your eyes!</p><p></p><p>So much of what you describe is all about daughter in law feeling so very out of control. She is probably terrified of what you all would say to each other. Chances are she has created some drama and doesn't want you all to know what she told her parents about you. She cannot make her parents behave rationally and trying to will really tear her up inside. </p><p></p><p>If you go and listen to some meetings, speak up when you are comfortable, and try to gently be kind and patient with her, then maybe in time she will open back up to you.</p><p></p><p>Also, if she was calling you after fights with your son, she may be afraid of what you can tell your son about what she said that was not the whole truth.</p><p></p><p>My exSIL really really REALLY did NOT NOT NOT want me to have conversations with her teenage sons because they would show what a terrible mom she had been. </p><p></p><p>She also probably is TERRIFIED that her kid (s) will end up with developmental delays, and everything else that might be wrong.</p><p></p><p>The whole thing so totally fits my exSIL that it isn't funny. Wiz had an appointment with the dev pediatrician and I was babysitting. My niece got fussy in the appointment so I fed her. The dev pediatrician loved holding her cause she is a cuddlebunny, but he did say that we needed to keep an eye on her because she has some features that could be attributed to fetal alcohol or possibly something else. Niece is just fine but my bro and exSIL decided that it was just not OK for me to see her. Period. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry this so tough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 300675, member: 1233"] MWM, please do some reading on Adult Children of Alcoholics. I sent you a link to a used copy of a book called "The Laundry List" that is incredibly helpful in opening your eyes! So much of what you describe is all about daughter in law feeling so very out of control. She is probably terrified of what you all would say to each other. Chances are she has created some drama and doesn't want you all to know what she told her parents about you. She cannot make her parents behave rationally and trying to will really tear her up inside. If you go and listen to some meetings, speak up when you are comfortable, and try to gently be kind and patient with her, then maybe in time she will open back up to you. Also, if she was calling you after fights with your son, she may be afraid of what you can tell your son about what she said that was not the whole truth. My exSIL really really REALLY did NOT NOT NOT want me to have conversations with her teenage sons because they would show what a terrible mom she had been. She also probably is TERRIFIED that her kid (s) will end up with developmental delays, and everything else that might be wrong. The whole thing so totally fits my exSIL that it isn't funny. Wiz had an appointment with the dev pediatrician and I was babysitting. My niece got fussy in the appointment so I fed her. The dev pediatrician loved holding her cause she is a cuddlebunny, but he did say that we needed to keep an eye on her because she has some features that could be attributed to fetal alcohol or possibly something else. Niece is just fine but my bro and exSIL decided that it was just not OK for me to see her. Period. I am sorry this so tough. [/QUOTE]
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