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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 456994" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Our 11 year old adoptee had a 'perfect" profile and behaved in a "perfect" way to all adults. His psychiatrist even raved about what a good kid he was and we talked to his foster mother of five years before adopting him, but he'd fooled her too. Truth was (as most of the board knows) he spent the two years that he lived here sexually abusing my two younger children. They were so terrified of him they didn't say anything about it...and both were also very young. Since he was always so "good" at charming adults, including us (yes, we feel guilty), we had no idea that he was a sick, twisted child until our second dog died suspiciously. The first one we thought was done by crabby neighbors. The second time, well, nobody was around to do it but him. He was starting to get careless. Everytime I think of what he did to the animals and especially my kids, I feel physically sick. As soon as we found out what he'd done, he was gone. We didn't want to try. We just wanted him gone. I heard he didn't really care, and he was diagnosed with "Severe Reactive Attachment Disorder."</p><p></p><p></p><p>I give kudos to those who can go through what we did and yet adopt or foster for another day. Hub and I decided, after the 11 year old, that we would never ever do it again and just be good parents to our growing children who needed to heal. Fortunately, both have done really well. The state was really good about paying for all kinds of services and help for them and the 11 year old (13 when he left) was tried and found guilty of sexual assault of a minor. Maybe the fact that justice was served (at least that people believed them) helped both kids. They remember, but have been very resilient so far.</p><p></p><p>I hope your story ends up happier than ours did. (((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 456994, member: 1550"] Our 11 year old adoptee had a 'perfect" profile and behaved in a "perfect" way to all adults. His psychiatrist even raved about what a good kid he was and we talked to his foster mother of five years before adopting him, but he'd fooled her too. Truth was (as most of the board knows) he spent the two years that he lived here sexually abusing my two younger children. They were so terrified of him they didn't say anything about it...and both were also very young. Since he was always so "good" at charming adults, including us (yes, we feel guilty), we had no idea that he was a sick, twisted child until our second dog died suspiciously. The first one we thought was done by crabby neighbors. The second time, well, nobody was around to do it but him. He was starting to get careless. Everytime I think of what he did to the animals and especially my kids, I feel physically sick. As soon as we found out what he'd done, he was gone. We didn't want to try. We just wanted him gone. I heard he didn't really care, and he was diagnosed with "Severe Reactive Attachment Disorder." I give kudos to those who can go through what we did and yet adopt or foster for another day. Hub and I decided, after the 11 year old, that we would never ever do it again and just be good parents to our growing children who needed to heal. Fortunately, both have done really well. The state was really good about paying for all kinds of services and help for them and the 11 year old (13 when he left) was tried and found guilty of sexual assault of a minor. Maybe the fact that justice was served (at least that people believed them) helped both kids. They remember, but have been very resilient so far. I hope your story ends up happier than ours did. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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