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<blockquote data-quote="Methuselah" data-source="post: 457017" data-attributes="member: 12725"><p>Midwest mom, thanks for sharing that. I'm sorry you had to live with that and forever with the guilt. </p><p></p><p>difficult child 2 isn't violent at all. She just mainly steals, lies, cons and manipulates. I wonder if she were a boy if violence would rear its ugly head. </p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 is VERY covert with her anger and aggression. She doesn't show any anger at all. Ever. She is a spit in your drink, leave dirty underwear on your pillow, knock piles of stuff over, etc. It isn't done in front of us but super covertly behind our backs. It's weird and very hard to deal with, bc you can't defend yourself. The one time she was overt was when she took a chef's knife to get me in the middle of the night. I nipped it in the bud, bc I told her what would happen: I would be put out of my misery and would go to Heaven, flowers would be laid at our doorstep, not for me, but for the wife of my husband and the mother of Screamo, two extremely well liked people. She, on the other hand, would have to live with the fact that everyone will know who she really is, and that is her biggest fear: the outside will know the truth. We haven't had an issue since. :-/</p><p></p><p>Our focus is primarily on the boys and our marriage. I worry horribly I am failing them; I understand your guilt. I do my best to protect them, but I can only do so much. </p><p></p><p>I found out perception/image management is a skill most sociopath's develop. They have been doing this since the were in grade school. I noted a book I read "Character Disturbances", which was a comfort to me. "Without Conscience" was also enlightening. Everything I have said about the girls, especially difficult child 1, is written in that book. It was a comfort. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can find a way to find peace with the past. In "Without Conscience", the author, who is the go-to guy on psychopathic behavior, admits he is taken in by their (superficial) charm and likability. He and his assistants get fooled, and they truly know what to look for. :-/</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Methuselah, post: 457017, member: 12725"] Midwest mom, thanks for sharing that. I'm sorry you had to live with that and forever with the guilt. difficult child 2 isn't violent at all. She just mainly steals, lies, cons and manipulates. I wonder if she were a boy if violence would rear its ugly head. difficult child 1 is VERY covert with her anger and aggression. She doesn't show any anger at all. Ever. She is a spit in your drink, leave dirty underwear on your pillow, knock piles of stuff over, etc. It isn't done in front of us but super covertly behind our backs. It's weird and very hard to deal with, bc you can't defend yourself. The one time she was overt was when she took a chef's knife to get me in the middle of the night. I nipped it in the bud, bc I told her what would happen: I would be put out of my misery and would go to Heaven, flowers would be laid at our doorstep, not for me, but for the wife of my husband and the mother of Screamo, two extremely well liked people. She, on the other hand, would have to live with the fact that everyone will know who she really is, and that is her biggest fear: the outside will know the truth. We haven't had an issue since. :-/ Our focus is primarily on the boys and our marriage. I worry horribly I am failing them; I understand your guilt. I do my best to protect them, but I can only do so much. I found out perception/image management is a skill most sociopath's develop. They have been doing this since the were in grade school. I noted a book I read "Character Disturbances", which was a comfort to me. "Without Conscience" was also enlightening. Everything I have said about the girls, especially difficult child 1, is written in that book. It was a comfort. I hope you can find a way to find peace with the past. In "Without Conscience", the author, who is the go-to guy on psychopathic behavior, admits he is taken in by their (superficial) charm and likability. He and his assistants get fooled, and they truly know what to look for. :-/ [/QUOTE]
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