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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 415581" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You did exactly the right thing when you had him taken to the hospital for evaluation. They did the right thing by keeping him. It is harder than ever to get a psychiatric admit to a psychiatric hospital since the economy crashed, so the hospital keeping him is very much an idicator of how ill he is.</p><p> </p><p>Grief is really hard to cope with. Grief of a lost loved one due to suicide is even worse. I know how awful it is because when I was home from college that first winter break a friend killed himself. It literally sent me off the rails for a long time. I know that I was not rational at times, though I was away at school so my parents didn't have much of a clue. No matter what, he NEEDS ongoing grief counselling. Not just reg therapy - though that will be very helpful also, esp family therapy, but he also needs special therapy to help with grief. Many funeral homes offer this as a free service to the community. That sounds strange, I know, but they are usually very good. Esp group therapy for grief - it really helps to meet others outside your immediate circle of family and friends who have been there done that. </p><p> </p><p>He doesn't hate you. He will eventually see that you were doing the best you can and that it took a lot of love and strength to love him enough to force him to get help. My son swore for several years that he would never forgive me for putting him into a psychiatric hospital and making him stay for four months. A couple of years later he thanked me for doing it. So don't take his words as gospel or prophecy, not any more than you did when he was a toddler and told you that you were a bad mommy for not giving him another cookie or for making him take a nap. </p><p> </p><p>Lots of hugs, I really hope he accepts the help he needs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 415581, member: 1233"] You did exactly the right thing when you had him taken to the hospital for evaluation. They did the right thing by keeping him. It is harder than ever to get a psychiatric admit to a psychiatric hospital since the economy crashed, so the hospital keeping him is very much an idicator of how ill he is. Grief is really hard to cope with. Grief of a lost loved one due to suicide is even worse. I know how awful it is because when I was home from college that first winter break a friend killed himself. It literally sent me off the rails for a long time. I know that I was not rational at times, though I was away at school so my parents didn't have much of a clue. No matter what, he NEEDS ongoing grief counselling. Not just reg therapy - though that will be very helpful also, esp family therapy, but he also needs special therapy to help with grief. Many funeral homes offer this as a free service to the community. That sounds strange, I know, but they are usually very good. Esp group therapy for grief - it really helps to meet others outside your immediate circle of family and friends who have been there done that. He doesn't hate you. He will eventually see that you were doing the best you can and that it took a lot of love and strength to love him enough to force him to get help. My son swore for several years that he would never forgive me for putting him into a psychiatric hospital and making him stay for four months. A couple of years later he thanked me for doing it. So don't take his words as gospel or prophecy, not any more than you did when he was a toddler and told you that you were a bad mommy for not giving him another cookie or for making him take a nap. Lots of hugs, I really hope he accepts the help he needs. [/QUOTE]
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