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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 101201" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>easy child and I spoke last night about it. She asked me something about dinner and I said some snappy remark about fending for herself...I was having my soup! She was in the other room and came whipping around the bend and said, "What did you say? Did you say something about your soup?" laughing a little. </p><p></p><p>With a very grave face and turned to her and asked if she was aware of all that we've been doing for her, not just this past weekend, but her whole life, especially this past year. How we've supported her emotionally as well as financially....</p><p></p><p>I told her that: </p><p></p><p>"this is not a case of you owe me, but about recognition, appreciation and give and take. We do what we do out of love, hope, the desire to help you reach your dreams and because we want to. We don't expect monumental returns. But we do expect equal treatment and thoughtfulness on your (and difficult child's) part. My miniscule favor of asking you to drop off my soup while out running your errands was not so great and yet you made it out to be this huge inconvenience - you hurt my feelings and I felt taken advantage of."</p><p></p><p>She responded by saying:</p><p></p><p>I know you did a lot for me. But you should remember to bring your soup in the morning before you leave."</p><p></p><p>That was the end of conversation pretty much. </p><p></p><p>I wouldn't ruin Christmas to make this point. She's always been appreciative in the past and has written us thank you's that make you cry they are so touching. I know that she's a wreck about moving back to college this weekend and that is coming out in this way as well as others. Her head is killing her with psorriasis - it happens when she's feeling incredibly stressed. She's thinking about all sorts of things and I get that. It will be okay. I'm not going to make a mountain out of mohill, besides I gave her my piece - she knows how I feel. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for the support!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 101201, member: 2211"] easy child and I spoke last night about it. She asked me something about dinner and I said some snappy remark about fending for herself...I was having my soup! She was in the other room and came whipping around the bend and said, "What did you say? Did you say something about your soup?" laughing a little. With a very grave face and turned to her and asked if she was aware of all that we've been doing for her, not just this past weekend, but her whole life, especially this past year. How we've supported her emotionally as well as financially.... I told her that: "this is not a case of you owe me, but about recognition, appreciation and give and take. We do what we do out of love, hope, the desire to help you reach your dreams and because we want to. We don't expect monumental returns. But we do expect equal treatment and thoughtfulness on your (and difficult child's) part. My miniscule favor of asking you to drop off my soup while out running your errands was not so great and yet you made it out to be this huge inconvenience - you hurt my feelings and I felt taken advantage of." She responded by saying: I know you did a lot for me. But you should remember to bring your soup in the morning before you leave." That was the end of conversation pretty much. I wouldn't ruin Christmas to make this point. She's always been appreciative in the past and has written us thank you's that make you cry they are so touching. I know that she's a wreck about moving back to college this weekend and that is coming out in this way as well as others. Her head is killing her with psorriasis - it happens when she's feeling incredibly stressed. She's thinking about all sorts of things and I get that. It will be okay. I'm not going to make a mountain out of mohill, besides I gave her my piece - she knows how I feel. Thanks for the support! [/QUOTE]
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