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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 511079" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>When one person in a "dysfunctional" family changes, it can put other members "out of order" too... even if the original changes are for the better. Like it or not, difficult child + family = some level of dysfunction. <grin></p><p></p><p>So... I'd be making that my first guess. Maybe easy child figures the only way to get attention is to start acting up, because that's how the others did it? Rather than even going to "behavior mod" stuff, if you suspect this might be the case, try some relationship building, instead. Give her good attention, just for being herself. Take her out for "coffee" (milkshake??) or something like that, where the attention is undivided and you can talk together?</p><p></p><p>My second reaction - and I'd give far more weight to reaction one at this point - is that she's 8. Getting toward the end of Grade 3, maybe heading into 4. It is a common point for problems that have been "under the radar", to start to show up. LDs? less-obvious motor skills issues? maybe some Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) stuff? Try talking to her. What goes well at school, what is hard, what do the teachers tell her she isn't trying hard enough at... Might be revealing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 511079, member: 11791"] When one person in a "dysfunctional" family changes, it can put other members "out of order" too... even if the original changes are for the better. Like it or not, difficult child + family = some level of dysfunction. <grin> So... I'd be making that my first guess. Maybe easy child figures the only way to get attention is to start acting up, because that's how the others did it? Rather than even going to "behavior mod" stuff, if you suspect this might be the case, try some relationship building, instead. Give her good attention, just for being herself. Take her out for "coffee" (milkshake??) or something like that, where the attention is undivided and you can talk together? My second reaction - and I'd give far more weight to reaction one at this point - is that she's 8. Getting toward the end of Grade 3, maybe heading into 4. It is a common point for problems that have been "under the radar", to start to show up. LDs? less-obvious motor skills issues? maybe some Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) stuff? Try talking to her. What goes well at school, what is hard, what do the teachers tell her she isn't trying hard enough at... Might be revealing. [/QUOTE]
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