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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 642818" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Jabber, I know. But that was YOUR family. There were always screw up kids. I knew many. I grew up during the hippie generation in a very, very rich town where the kids were sooooooo monetarily spoiled. The Govenor of IL lived in our town. Half of the kids in our town, who had very successful parents, seemed to end up in Hippiesville, on drugs, and, because our school was THE liberal school, we had a smoking lounge there, kids high and drunk sleeping on the floor and one overdose a week, at least. I hated it. I love the giving and loving every race and ethnic group equally part of liberalism, but I dislike the lack of discipline at home and the entitlement (almost all of our rich suburban town was very politically liberal and had Dr. Spock parental values). My parents didn't do it because they were cheap...lol. So we didn't have as much which I think was a good thing. I was on my own at eighteen and I made it and still never lost my heart in spite of maltreatment of my family. I actually feel that, in a way, their refusal to sustain a very immature and learning disabled eighteen year old (myself) REALLY helped me. I had to grow up fast and I did.</p><p></p><p>If my parents had been touchy feely, and felt too sorry for me, and coddled me...life was harder for me than most kids. I had bipolar on top of learning disabilities. What a good excuse for me to not grow up. I didn't really want to. New ideas scared me. Being alone scared me. But I was forced and I did it. I DID IT! </p><p></p><p>I think difficult children stay difficult children because maybe life is a little harder for them, for whatever reason, and their parents help keep them young and feel too sorry for them, as if they CAN'T do this or that. But if you have to, it's amazing what you can do, even if it is learning how to survive in the homeless culture, which was not on my personal agenda. But some adults prefer it to rules.</p><p></p><p>Every society blames it's young for being too spoiled, too entitled, too this or too that, but I think it is just the personality of the young adult coupled with parents who allow that difficult child to keep being that way. It is easy to feel sorry for a young adult who had trouble in school or social problems, etc. But I see my autistic son doing more stuff than most of these difficult children do and I feel it is attitude. I do feel we have to force those who are tentative about growing up into doing it, one way or the other, or they may be children forever. It is a process such as stacking blocks. You can't expect a Peter Pan to be Mr. Responsible without setting the first block down young. If so, you may have to build faster once they are older. Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>I hope you are having a great holiday. I really enjoy both you and your wife. You are such incredible people. If I ever offend either of you, let me know as I value both of your input. I wish your son could see what great parents he has. Maybe, in his heart, he does know it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 642818, member: 1550"] Jabber, I know. But that was YOUR family. There were always screw up kids. I knew many. I grew up during the hippie generation in a very, very rich town where the kids were sooooooo monetarily spoiled. The Govenor of IL lived in our town. Half of the kids in our town, who had very successful parents, seemed to end up in Hippiesville, on drugs, and, because our school was THE liberal school, we had a smoking lounge there, kids high and drunk sleeping on the floor and one overdose a week, at least. I hated it. I love the giving and loving every race and ethnic group equally part of liberalism, but I dislike the lack of discipline at home and the entitlement (almost all of our rich suburban town was very politically liberal and had Dr. Spock parental values). My parents didn't do it because they were cheap...lol. So we didn't have as much which I think was a good thing. I was on my own at eighteen and I made it and still never lost my heart in spite of maltreatment of my family. I actually feel that, in a way, their refusal to sustain a very immature and learning disabled eighteen year old (myself) REALLY helped me. I had to grow up fast and I did. If my parents had been touchy feely, and felt too sorry for me, and coddled me...life was harder for me than most kids. I had bipolar on top of learning disabilities. What a good excuse for me to not grow up. I didn't really want to. New ideas scared me. Being alone scared me. But I was forced and I did it. I DID IT! I think difficult children stay difficult children because maybe life is a little harder for them, for whatever reason, and their parents help keep them young and feel too sorry for them, as if they CAN'T do this or that. But if you have to, it's amazing what you can do, even if it is learning how to survive in the homeless culture, which was not on my personal agenda. But some adults prefer it to rules. Every society blames it's young for being too spoiled, too entitled, too this or too that, but I think it is just the personality of the young adult coupled with parents who allow that difficult child to keep being that way. It is easy to feel sorry for a young adult who had trouble in school or social problems, etc. But I see my autistic son doing more stuff than most of these difficult children do and I feel it is attitude. I do feel we have to force those who are tentative about growing up into doing it, one way or the other, or they may be children forever. It is a process such as stacking blocks. You can't expect a Peter Pan to be Mr. Responsible without setting the first block down young. If so, you may have to build faster once they are older. Know what I mean?? I hope you are having a great holiday. I really enjoy both you and your wife. You are such incredible people. If I ever offend either of you, let me know as I value both of your input. I wish your son could see what great parents he has. Maybe, in his heart, he does know it. [/QUOTE]
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