Armed with some new tools and strategies. Hopefully enough to keep my sanity and buy some time to find out if husband is really invested in fixing this or not. She said again that he didn't grow uP in a family that taught him respect, so when the going got tough, he has fallen into a pattern of known behavior, and that I am going to have to essentially parent him and teach him these things. Build the house brick by brick. But she, too, sees that conflicting 'thing', whatever it is, that suggests he does care despite every action screaming otherwise... It's kinda like I have to detach from him in order to have a prayer of saving this marriage. Ugh. I can do this, right?