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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 240243" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Addiction has destroyed many families. My husband and I live a life that we never anticipated and our years of upper middle class living are a memory.</p><p> </p><p>I have never lived with an addicted spouse. I have never lived with the reality that someone I loved blatantly lied to me. I have, however, opted for a divorce and lived for over six years as a single parent. Please note that I did not "love" my husband and I surely did not "respect" him and I do not regret that choice in my life. That choice effected me and my three children more than I ever anticipated.</p><p> </p><p>on the other hand, I would suggest that you need to find an independent qualified therapist where you can vent and explore your pain. I would bet my bottom dollar that you are hesitant to speak freely in a more public forum due to your career and status in the community. If you subsequently feel stronger then you can participate in Rehab group or Al-Anon or whatever.</p><p> </p><p>Strongly I recommend that you not even think about divorce at this point in your life. It is premature. Your thoughts are leading you to think that you can feel better if you chop off your connection. It is not that simple. Your grown children will feel your decision in a deeper way than you can imagine. It is a <strong>huge</strong> life altering decision that should not be considered for a <strong>long</strong> time. Take care of todays pain today. There are alot of tomorrows. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 240243, member: 35"] Addiction has destroyed many families. My husband and I live a life that we never anticipated and our years of upper middle class living are a memory. I have never lived with an addicted spouse. I have never lived with the reality that someone I loved blatantly lied to me. I have, however, opted for a divorce and lived for over six years as a single parent. Please note that I did not "love" my husband and I surely did not "respect" him and I do not regret that choice in my life. That choice effected me and my three children more than I ever anticipated. on the other hand, I would suggest that you need to find an independent qualified therapist where you can vent and explore your pain. I would bet my bottom dollar that you are hesitant to speak freely in a more public forum due to your career and status in the community. If you subsequently feel stronger then you can participate in Rehab group or Al-Anon or whatever. Strongly I recommend that you not even think about divorce at this point in your life. It is premature. Your thoughts are leading you to think that you can feel better if you chop off your connection. It is not that simple. Your grown children will feel your decision in a deeper way than you can imagine. It is a [B]huge[/B] life altering decision that should not be considered for a [B]long[/B] time. Take care of todays pain today. There are alot of tomorrows. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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