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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 239648" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The suggestions to get it in writing - brilliant. You need a paper trail. And you can use her words to help you get what you want form her.</p><p></p><p>She says you don't listen - so use that. "I'm not sure exactly what you said and I know it wasimportant. So could you please write it all down for me? That way I will be more able to follow what you want me to do."</p><p></p><p>Or Shari's suggestion (if the PO fails to follow through and give you aything in writing) - YOU write down what you think she said and send it to her with the sentence attached, "I think this is what you told me. I would love it if you wrote it all out for me, but if you don't get your own copy to me, and if I don't hear from you to say what I've written here is incorrect, I will assume this list is correct and work from it accordingly. I really do want to get this right."</p><p></p><p>The judge should see your letter, so it needs to be polite, almost fawning (which should make it clear that you aren't anything for the PO to be apparently afraid of). It should alsos shoot the ground from under anyone who accuses you of not being cooperative.</p><p></p><p>When someone suggests something ridiculous, you have two options:</p><p></p><p>1) refuse to do it; or</p><p></p><p>2) do it.</p><p></p><p>If you refuse to do it, and they have the capacity to make you, then you're going to fight a battle. But if you do it, especially after telling tham that it will be a waste of time, but you demonstrate clearly that you tried, you really did try, to catch water in a sieve, then you can truly say, "OK, we tried it your way. NOW will you listen to me?"</p><p></p><p>Good luck with this one.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 239648, member: 1991"] The suggestions to get it in writing - brilliant. You need a paper trail. And you can use her words to help you get what you want form her. She says you don't listen - so use that. "I'm not sure exactly what you said and I know it wasimportant. So could you please write it all down for me? That way I will be more able to follow what you want me to do." Or Shari's suggestion (if the PO fails to follow through and give you aything in writing) - YOU write down what you think she said and send it to her with the sentence attached, "I think this is what you told me. I would love it if you wrote it all out for me, but if you don't get your own copy to me, and if I don't hear from you to say what I've written here is incorrect, I will assume this list is correct and work from it accordingly. I really do want to get this right." The judge should see your letter, so it needs to be polite, almost fawning (which should make it clear that you aren't anything for the PO to be apparently afraid of). It should alsos shoot the ground from under anyone who accuses you of not being cooperative. When someone suggests something ridiculous, you have two options: 1) refuse to do it; or 2) do it. If you refuse to do it, and they have the capacity to make you, then you're going to fight a battle. But if you do it, especially after telling tham that it will be a waste of time, but you demonstrate clearly that you tried, you really did try, to catch water in a sieve, then you can truly say, "OK, we tried it your way. NOW will you listen to me?" Good luck with this one. Marg [/QUOTE]
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