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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 363859" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I love you all so much!!! I actually looked up the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline and called. My mother makes a point of telling us that we are not using words and phrases correctly if we use terms like emotionally abusive or domestic violence. She goes out of her way to try to get us to admit that it isn't really that because we don't know the "true" and "correct" meaning of the terms.</p><p></p><p>I have gotten so used to her using "cite your source" because it comes up every time I hint that gfgbro has acted badly toward us. </p><p></p><p>I laid it all out. The things I have and am doing wrong. What I am doing to try to fix or change those things. What we do and don't say around him because we don't want to upset him. What the kids say and do that he says are rude and/or disrespectful. </p><p></p><p>I told her how he acts toward us. How he waits until my mom is not in eyesight or hearing distance.</p><p></p><p>Of course the person said that this is clear cut abuse. What we are doing does NOT deserve that. She also said that the pressure that we get to go to counseling with bro to "work it out" is totally unreasonable and another form of abuse.</p><p></p><p>I know my head says it. I know y'all say it. And we are absolutely correct. It feels awful to have to plan strategy to talk about it with my mother and father. with-out the planning and getting reinforcements from "unbiased" sources my mother will never ever settle down about this. She will take quite a while as it is, but with the therapists and "experts" agreeing with me there is at least a 50% chance that she will accept things by Christmas.</p><p></p><p>I did not call because I didn't trust you to tell me the truth. It was just another way to make sure I have every i dotted and every t crossed. My mother respects logical arguments above almost anything else.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 363859, member: 1233"] I love you all so much!!! I actually looked up the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline and called. My mother makes a point of telling us that we are not using words and phrases correctly if we use terms like emotionally abusive or domestic violence. She goes out of her way to try to get us to admit that it isn't really that because we don't know the "true" and "correct" meaning of the terms. I have gotten so used to her using "cite your source" because it comes up every time I hint that gfgbro has acted badly toward us. I laid it all out. The things I have and am doing wrong. What I am doing to try to fix or change those things. What we do and don't say around him because we don't want to upset him. What the kids say and do that he says are rude and/or disrespectful. I told her how he acts toward us. How he waits until my mom is not in eyesight or hearing distance. Of course the person said that this is clear cut abuse. What we are doing does NOT deserve that. She also said that the pressure that we get to go to counseling with bro to "work it out" is totally unreasonable and another form of abuse. I know my head says it. I know y'all say it. And we are absolutely correct. It feels awful to have to plan strategy to talk about it with my mother and father. with-out the planning and getting reinforcements from "unbiased" sources my mother will never ever settle down about this. She will take quite a while as it is, but with the therapists and "experts" agreeing with me there is at least a 50% chance that she will accept things by Christmas. I did not call because I didn't trust you to tell me the truth. It was just another way to make sure I have every i dotted and every t crossed. My mother respects logical arguments above almost anything else. [/QUOTE]
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