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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 363916" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I got bullied a lot at school. The adults in my life, from teachers to parents to adult siblings, all quoted at me that I needed to say, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."</p><p>So I did say it to the bullies. Then they said, "Sticks and stones, eh?" and began to collect rocks to throw at me.</p><p></p><p>I thought then, and after tat incident really firmly believed (even if the adults in my life refused to accept it) that it is the stupidest thing you can ever tell someone, who is dealing with any form of abuse, especially if it is "just" verbal. </p><p></p><p>At least when the abuse becomes physical, you know the line has been crossed. But when it stays verbal, it's too easy to blame yourself for having incited it, or for "making a fuss about nothing".</p><p></p><p>The "sticks and stones" phrase gets trotted out by people who want an easy way out of having to support you with your problems - they don't care, and so think that expression justifies their apathy.</p><p></p><p>It's like the people who quote the Bible when they say, "Am I my brother's keeper?" to justify non-involvement; forgetting that although it is in the Bible, it is a quote by Cain when he is asked where his brother Abel is, whom he has murdered. Yes, you ARE your brother's keeper, when you are the one who killed him!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 363916, member: 1991"] I got bullied a lot at school. The adults in my life, from teachers to parents to adult siblings, all quoted at me that I needed to say, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." So I did say it to the bullies. Then they said, "Sticks and stones, eh?" and began to collect rocks to throw at me. I thought then, and after tat incident really firmly believed (even if the adults in my life refused to accept it) that it is the stupidest thing you can ever tell someone, who is dealing with any form of abuse, especially if it is "just" verbal. At least when the abuse becomes physical, you know the line has been crossed. But when it stays verbal, it's too easy to blame yourself for having incited it, or for "making a fuss about nothing". The "sticks and stones" phrase gets trotted out by people who want an easy way out of having to support you with your problems - they don't care, and so think that expression justifies their apathy. It's like the people who quote the Bible when they say, "Am I my brother's keeper?" to justify non-involvement; forgetting that although it is in the Bible, it is a quote by Cain when he is asked where his brother Abel is, whom he has murdered. Yes, you ARE your brother's keeper, when you are the one who killed him! Marg [/QUOTE]
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