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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 535574"><p>Hi Welcome to the board.....check out the substance abuse forum as well, many of us over there have been in similar situations. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like he wants out of the trouble he is in, and may say he is willing to do whatever but might not be serious about it. That is the risk you take. Given that he is 18 and has not done rehab before (correct?) then I would do what you can to get him into some kind of rehab... not everyone who is successful at rehab are really willing in the beginning. Sounds like teen challenge is a good option that is affordable... $800 is not much compared to other types of rehab. As long as you don't have issues with the strongly faith basis of teen challenge.</p><p></p><p>You need to remember his lawyer is working for him not you. So he might try to make a deal including rehab if that is what your son wants and is willing to do... but depending on the case if he can get him off without making that kind of deal he might do that. So yes talk to the lawyer but be aware he does not work for you... and if he is a good lawyer and sympathetic he will make that clear to you. Our lawyer was very sympathetic to us but also made it clear that his mission was to help our son with what he wanted and he got to make the decisions.</p><p></p><p>You might want to call the probation officer. If he is on probation, they actually can have a lot of say... and would probably be party to any plea agreement. If you can get the court to order some kind of treatment or program, and if he doesn't finish then it is a violation of probation, that can really have some weight.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.... its a tough place to be.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 535574"] Hi Welcome to the board.....check out the substance abuse forum as well, many of us over there have been in similar situations. It sounds like he wants out of the trouble he is in, and may say he is willing to do whatever but might not be serious about it. That is the risk you take. Given that he is 18 and has not done rehab before (correct?) then I would do what you can to get him into some kind of rehab... not everyone who is successful at rehab are really willing in the beginning. Sounds like teen challenge is a good option that is affordable... $800 is not much compared to other types of rehab. As long as you don't have issues with the strongly faith basis of teen challenge. You need to remember his lawyer is working for him not you. So he might try to make a deal including rehab if that is what your son wants and is willing to do... but depending on the case if he can get him off without making that kind of deal he might do that. So yes talk to the lawyer but be aware he does not work for you... and if he is a good lawyer and sympathetic he will make that clear to you. Our lawyer was very sympathetic to us but also made it clear that his mission was to help our son with what he wanted and he got to make the decisions. You might want to call the probation officer. If he is on probation, they actually can have a lot of say... and would probably be party to any plea agreement. If you can get the court to order some kind of treatment or program, and if he doesn't finish then it is a violation of probation, that can really have some weight. Good luck.... its a tough place to be. TL [/QUOTE]
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