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<blockquote data-quote="HereWeGoAgain" data-source="post: 161012" data-attributes="member: 3485"><p>Thanks everybody for the responses. It's nice to get the support and encouragement.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard on easy child 1. Know what broke my heart? On vacation, we had some calls from concerned people at home about what was going on with J. easy child 1 overheard our end of some of these and formed a pretty good notion of what was going on. We arranged for wife and easy child 1 to stay there with family while I drove back to deal with the actual eviction. So I was telling easy child 1 she got to stay and play with her cousins a few more days and ride back on an airplane and I would see her again in a few days. This was before wife sat down with her to break the news that her mom would be moving out again. But, as I said, she was very aware that something was up. She asked me, "Will mommy be there when you get there?" "I think so," I replied. "Good, you can make her stop partying!" So I explained that I could not make mommy stop partying, only mommy could do that. I tear up every time I think about how she wanted me to make it all right and I couldn't.</p><p></p><p>Here's how the eviction went down: I got back Tuesday night. There was a note on the counter saying she was at Erica's and she'd be back tomorrow [Wednesday] "if you'll let me come back home" -- so she already had guessed that eviction was a live possibility. I was unable to reach her until late Wednesday night. I delivered the news, which she took without throwing a tantrum. We arranged for her to come over to the house and collect her things Thursday evening after my work. She was supposed to get there at 7. At 8 I called Erica's and found out she was "really tired" and it would "be easiest for everybody if I just come over Saturday." "Easiest for <em>you</em>, not easiest for 'everybody'," I said. "Huh?" "Never mind. Saturday won't work. If you can't get it tonight, I'll put your stuff in the garage, and you can get it tomorrow [Friday], or if not, we'll have to arrange something for next week when easy child 1 is not around." I spent Thursday night until 3 a.m. Friday packing her clothes, cosmetics and stuff up and hauling it out to the garage and cleaning the house. Had to miss work Friday to finish up. I left for the airport Friday afternoon at 5. J got there in Erica's truck while I was out, collected her things, and threw herself a tantrum (the one I didn't get on the phone on Wednesday, I guess). She kicked over my bike and threw her things she didn't want to take here and there around the garage, dropped her house keys in the middle of the living room floor and left a hateful note for her mother in the kitchen (she was not supposed to go inside the house at all). I had told her that if she didn't get there before I left on Friday, her LINK card (food stamps) and mail would be in the mailbox, where her set of house keys was supposed to be left. She spaced that out and accused us in the note of stealing the card. If she hadn't spitefully dropped the keys on the floor, she'd have found her card. Ironic, huh?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HereWeGoAgain, post: 161012, member: 3485"] Thanks everybody for the responses. It's nice to get the support and encouragement. It is very hard on easy child 1. Know what broke my heart? On vacation, we had some calls from concerned people at home about what was going on with J. easy child 1 overheard our end of some of these and formed a pretty good notion of what was going on. We arranged for wife and easy child 1 to stay there with family while I drove back to deal with the actual eviction. So I was telling easy child 1 she got to stay and play with her cousins a few more days and ride back on an airplane and I would see her again in a few days. This was before wife sat down with her to break the news that her mom would be moving out again. But, as I said, she was very aware that something was up. She asked me, "Will mommy be there when you get there?" "I think so," I replied. "Good, you can make her stop partying!" So I explained that I could not make mommy stop partying, only mommy could do that. I tear up every time I think about how she wanted me to make it all right and I couldn't. Here's how the eviction went down: I got back Tuesday night. There was a note on the counter saying she was at Erica's and she'd be back tomorrow [Wednesday] "if you'll let me come back home" -- so she already had guessed that eviction was a live possibility. I was unable to reach her until late Wednesday night. I delivered the news, which she took without throwing a tantrum. We arranged for her to come over to the house and collect her things Thursday evening after my work. She was supposed to get there at 7. At 8 I called Erica's and found out she was "really tired" and it would "be easiest for everybody if I just come over Saturday." "Easiest for [I]you[/I], not easiest for 'everybody'," I said. "Huh?" "Never mind. Saturday won't work. If you can't get it tonight, I'll put your stuff in the garage, and you can get it tomorrow [Friday], or if not, we'll have to arrange something for next week when easy child 1 is not around." I spent Thursday night until 3 a.m. Friday packing her clothes, cosmetics and stuff up and hauling it out to the garage and cleaning the house. Had to miss work Friday to finish up. I left for the airport Friday afternoon at 5. J got there in Erica's truck while I was out, collected her things, and threw herself a tantrum (the one I didn't get on the phone on Wednesday, I guess). She kicked over my bike and threw her things she didn't want to take here and there around the garage, dropped her house keys in the middle of the living room floor and left a hateful note for her mother in the kitchen (she was not supposed to go inside the house at all). I had told her that if she didn't get there before I left on Friday, her LINK card (food stamps) and mail would be in the mailbox, where her set of house keys was supposed to be left. She spaced that out and accused us in the note of stealing the card. If she hadn't spitefully dropped the keys on the floor, she'd have found her card. Ironic, huh? [/QUOTE]
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