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<blockquote data-quote="HereWeGoAgain" data-source="post: 161619" data-attributes="member: 3485"><p>Well J wore out her welcome at Erica's pretty fast. Erica called and told wife that she was kicking J out. </p><p> </p><p>Erica told wife how J had gone ballistic when she came for her things. She raged that I had eradicated every trace of her from the house, I always hated her and now I was getting my fondest wish, etc. Erica herself thought that I was being pretty harsh (don't you all find this a common reaction to forcing a child out?). </p><p> </p><p>I didn't expect anything different, but I felt I had to be very thorough in packing her stuff up to get the point across that <em>she doesn't live here any more</em> -- if I left half of it around it would be as though we expected she would be moving in again in the future. That was my motive, not cruelty. </p><p> </p><p>We had a long talk with our son (easy child 2) and daughter-in-law while we were on vacation. Stayed out on their porch til 3 a.m. after easy child 1 went to bed. We talked about quite a few things that we hadn't really gotten that deeply into before. easy child 2 and wife told us how they felt that J had dominated our lives for the past ten years. Countless times some happy event was overshadowed or someone's moment to shine (graduation, first job, promotion) was eclipsed by J's latest situation. It was physically exhausting to go through all that emotion (staying up so late didn't help either) (and now here I am typing at 2:10 a.m.). That night was when we formed the resolve that things had to change, and change permanently.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HereWeGoAgain, post: 161619, member: 3485"] Well J wore out her welcome at Erica's pretty fast. Erica called and told wife that she was kicking J out. Erica told wife how J had gone ballistic when she came for her things. She raged that I had eradicated every trace of her from the house, I always hated her and now I was getting my fondest wish, etc. Erica herself thought that I was being pretty harsh (don't you all find this a common reaction to forcing a child out?). I didn't expect anything different, but I felt I had to be very thorough in packing her stuff up to get the point across that [I]she doesn't live here any more[/I] -- if I left half of it around it would be as though we expected she would be moving in again in the future. That was my motive, not cruelty. We had a long talk with our son (easy child 2) and daughter-in-law while we were on vacation. Stayed out on their porch til 3 a.m. after easy child 1 went to bed. We talked about quite a few things that we hadn't really gotten that deeply into before. easy child 2 and wife told us how they felt that J had dominated our lives for the past ten years. Countless times some happy event was overshadowed or someone's moment to shine (graduation, first job, promotion) was eclipsed by J's latest situation. It was physically exhausting to go through all that emotion (staying up so late didn't help either) (and now here I am typing at 2:10 a.m.). That night was when we formed the resolve that things had to change, and change permanently. [/QUOTE]
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