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<blockquote data-quote="So Tired" data-source="post: 161720" data-attributes="member: 4772"><p>It is hard because they <span style="color: black"><u>so</u></span> know how to push that guilt button. "You wouldn't kick me out if you really loved me" They seem to never make the connection with the consequence and their behavior.</p><p></p><p>I understand what you mean about your other children and your grand-daughter. My easy child is 10 and her brother has managed to s_ck the joy out of many of her events. Moments that should have been all her's -dance recitals, birthdays, etc. spent either dealing with his crap or being exhausted from dealing with it. I am going to take your words and story to heart and do more to protect and cherish time with easy child and spend less of my emotional time and effort on difficult child. For instance, I used to feel guilty when we went out to dinner and didn't invite difficult child. Finally I told him that I don't invite him because he always finds a way to ruin our good time. (He needs to pick the restaurant, we need to hurry back 'cause his friends are waiting, blah blah blah ) I think he was a little shocked and hurt that I really didn't want him along and wasn't inviting him anymore. (He IS the center of the universe, after all!!) Thanks for making me feel less guilty in making choices that honor my easy child and our family.</p><p></p><p>I hope your daughter will come to understand your choice in protecting and honoring your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="So Tired, post: 161720, member: 4772"] It is hard because they [COLOR=black][U]so[/U][/COLOR] know how to push that guilt button. "You wouldn't kick me out if you really loved me" They seem to never make the connection with the consequence and their behavior. I understand what you mean about your other children and your grand-daughter. My easy child is 10 and her brother has managed to s_ck the joy out of many of her events. Moments that should have been all her's -dance recitals, birthdays, etc. spent either dealing with his crap or being exhausted from dealing with it. I am going to take your words and story to heart and do more to protect and cherish time with easy child and spend less of my emotional time and effort on difficult child. For instance, I used to feel guilty when we went out to dinner and didn't invite difficult child. Finally I told him that I don't invite him because he always finds a way to ruin our good time. (He needs to pick the restaurant, we need to hurry back 'cause his friends are waiting, blah blah blah ) I think he was a little shocked and hurt that I really didn't want him along and wasn't inviting him anymore. (He IS the center of the universe, after all!!) Thanks for making me feel less guilty in making choices that honor my easy child and our family. I hope your daughter will come to understand your choice in protecting and honoring your family. [/QUOTE]
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