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Let's all go for a ride on the emotional escalator, shall we? EPIC
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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 330093" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Oh boy, GVC...I'm so sorry.</p><p> </p><p>My heart began to thump reading your post because I went through an awful row with Son this week and the not eating thing is a trigger for him too. Just the other day he didn't want to eat because he didn't want to leave his wrestling show. Then, when its over, he wants me to drop everything to make him something to eat NOW and got nasty when I wouldn't. I'm try to have things available for him to make himself, but sometimes when get goes past of point of no return, he just can't think enough to do it. </p><p> </p><p>Seems like the simplest things turn into epic meltdowns. For Son, this week, it was refusing to have a friend to spend the night. I was just too exhausted to deal with HIM and his difficult child friend after Xmas. It went down hill at a break-neck speed after that. Though, I find when I stay calm with Son, it tends to embolden him to new heights. </p><p> </p><p>I've called the police on Son and it was devastating for me. Now, he threatens me with calling the police on ME. I took his cell (actually, after an hour of him screaming-after he slammed it in my hand, which hurt A LOT, I hurled it on the tiled bathroom floor-it was his Xmas present-to which it was left in pieces-and he thinks its broken-its not, only the battery and back came off-but I'm letting him think it is).</p><p> </p><p>I think consequences the next day is a good idea. It seems when it's done "in the moment" it only escalates things. I'm starting to get THAT through my thick head, hopefully. However, when they are so belligerent, rude, and disrespectful, it is so difficult not to want to parent "in the moment". </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>husband was EXACTLY like that before medications. He never described it like a high, but once he was in that anger state, he was locked in and unreachable. I could tell at twenty paces he was in that state just by the look on his face. Of course, once he emerged, he felt awful and extremely guilty. If he hadn't gone on medications, I don't think our marriage would have survived to this point. </p><p> </p><p>Sending ((hugs)) to you. Hopefully, a medication check/change will help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 330093, member: 831"] Oh boy, GVC...I'm so sorry. My heart began to thump reading your post because I went through an awful row with Son this week and the not eating thing is a trigger for him too. Just the other day he didn't want to eat because he didn't want to leave his wrestling show. Then, when its over, he wants me to drop everything to make him something to eat NOW and got nasty when I wouldn't. I'm try to have things available for him to make himself, but sometimes when get goes past of point of no return, he just can't think enough to do it. Seems like the simplest things turn into epic meltdowns. For Son, this week, it was refusing to have a friend to spend the night. I was just too exhausted to deal with HIM and his difficult child friend after Xmas. It went down hill at a break-neck speed after that. Though, I find when I stay calm with Son, it tends to embolden him to new heights. I've called the police on Son and it was devastating for me. Now, he threatens me with calling the police on ME. I took his cell (actually, after an hour of him screaming-after he slammed it in my hand, which hurt A LOT, I hurled it on the tiled bathroom floor-it was his Xmas present-to which it was left in pieces-and he thinks its broken-its not, only the battery and back came off-but I'm letting him think it is). I think consequences the next day is a good idea. It seems when it's done "in the moment" it only escalates things. I'm starting to get THAT through my thick head, hopefully. However, when they are so belligerent, rude, and disrespectful, it is so difficult not to want to parent "in the moment". husband was EXACTLY like that before medications. He never described it like a high, but once he was in that anger state, he was locked in and unreachable. I could tell at twenty paces he was in that state just by the look on his face. Of course, once he emerged, he felt awful and extremely guilty. If he hadn't gone on medications, I don't think our marriage would have survived to this point. Sending ((hugs)) to you. Hopefully, a medication check/change will help. [/QUOTE]
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