butterfly31972
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The psychiatrist that we see for difficult child has taken a counselor into the practice. I am very excited about this as I felt funny that we were just giving my son medications which works wonders for him and was hoping to eventually get him into some type of counseling also.
Well, we started with this guy and he has developed a reward system for my son. To be honest, I have really not done reward charts with him before. So this is new.
There are 5 things that I would like for him to do. Hopefully you will not mind going over them with me. By the way, he is 6 yrs old.
1. get dressed by himself-10 pts.
2. make own bed (which involves spreading his blanket over the bed only and taking his stuffed animals off the floor and placing them on the bed)-5 pts.
3. let the dog into the backyard in the morning (involves opening the back door and coaxing the dog out the door into the gated backyard)-5 pts.
4. brush his teeth-5 pts.
5. pick up the books in his room and put them on the bookshelf-5 pts.
Then there are 3 behaviors I would like for him to stop.
1. don't hit his brother-10 pts.
2. stop arguing/tantruming in the car with mom and/or brother- 10 pts.
3. stop anger/acting out in the morning- 10 pts.
Then here are his rewards:
1. extra playdate
2. make a special trip ti Grandpapa's house to spend time with him alone with-out mom and brother
3. go skating
4. extra movie night with popcorn and m&m's
5. stay up 30 minutes later on weekends
6. 30 minutes extra on video games
As I was telling him about the points system, he was covering his ears,finger shooting me, and basically making sure I knew he was ignoring me.
So I am wondering if the reward chart should be used as a way for him to earn ANY video game time at all? In other words, should the 30 minutes of extra video time become 30 minutes of video time and be totally earned instead of something that he gets automatically? I have been letting him play after his homework and before dinner pretty regularly and I KNOW he will become more compliant if he knows that it is the only way he can play video games, but I do not want to be too harsh. I know. I know. That is the crux of our problem. I am too lenient.
I guess more than anything I am confused about what an ADHD child can and cannot control. When he is on his medicine which lasts only throughout the school day which is 6 hours(even though it is a 12 hour dose), he is a dream.
What do you think of the chart and should I make him earn video game time instead of just tacking on 30 extra minutes? I really need this to work!
Thanks in advance.
Well, we started with this guy and he has developed a reward system for my son. To be honest, I have really not done reward charts with him before. So this is new.
There are 5 things that I would like for him to do. Hopefully you will not mind going over them with me. By the way, he is 6 yrs old.
1. get dressed by himself-10 pts.
2. make own bed (which involves spreading his blanket over the bed only and taking his stuffed animals off the floor and placing them on the bed)-5 pts.
3. let the dog into the backyard in the morning (involves opening the back door and coaxing the dog out the door into the gated backyard)-5 pts.
4. brush his teeth-5 pts.
5. pick up the books in his room and put them on the bookshelf-5 pts.
Then there are 3 behaviors I would like for him to stop.
1. don't hit his brother-10 pts.
2. stop arguing/tantruming in the car with mom and/or brother- 10 pts.
3. stop anger/acting out in the morning- 10 pts.
Then here are his rewards:
1. extra playdate
2. make a special trip ti Grandpapa's house to spend time with him alone with-out mom and brother
3. go skating
4. extra movie night with popcorn and m&m's
5. stay up 30 minutes later on weekends
6. 30 minutes extra on video games
As I was telling him about the points system, he was covering his ears,finger shooting me, and basically making sure I knew he was ignoring me.
So I am wondering if the reward chart should be used as a way for him to earn ANY video game time at all? In other words, should the 30 minutes of extra video time become 30 minutes of video time and be totally earned instead of something that he gets automatically? I have been letting him play after his homework and before dinner pretty regularly and I KNOW he will become more compliant if he knows that it is the only way he can play video games, but I do not want to be too harsh. I know. I know. That is the crux of our problem. I am too lenient.
I guess more than anything I am confused about what an ADHD child can and cannot control. When he is on his medicine which lasts only throughout the school day which is 6 hours(even though it is a 12 hour dose), he is a dream.
What do you think of the chart and should I make him earn video game time instead of just tacking on 30 extra minutes? I really need this to work!
Thanks in advance.