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Letting Go. Once again-I read something and had an aha moment & wanted to share+
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 518282" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs))))) That is a great analogy and thanks for sharing. I think many of us have to work on this with different aspects of our life. I know I do. I limit contact with my mom because she always says somethng about gfgbro and then I start worrying about him. I love him but he is not safe to be around for us. So I cut him off, but I still care. I have to stop the worrying by other ways than just blocking him and anything that reminds me of him out of my mind. this is a good thing for me to think about. Thank you.</p><p></p><p>Birthdays are hard for moms, in my opinion. We center the whole day around our child, and while we remember that first day so clearly, we often do not recognize our contribution. Years ago my father started giving my mother gifts and special outings on my birthday and my brother's. When I had children he did the same for me on theirs. I was taught to recognize my mother on my birthday because, in my dad's amazing words, "She did all the work." His gifts to her were a thank you for giving him each of us, and to my and even still exsil whom he hates, a thank you for his beloved grandchildren. </p><p></p><p>I think that you should celebrate YOURSELF on difficult child's birthday. Take time to honor the love, commitment and hard work you put into having and raising and loving him. His choices do NOT diminish all that you did, and that should be a focus of the celebration too. Recognize the pain, but try to remember the joy and that he has a very long time to get over these problems and to make it all up to you. Hope for that, and trust your HP to make it happen on HIS time. </p><p></p><p>I will celebrate you this weekend in my thoughts, prayers and with something chocolate!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 518282, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) That is a great analogy and thanks for sharing. I think many of us have to work on this with different aspects of our life. I know I do. I limit contact with my mom because she always says somethng about gfgbro and then I start worrying about him. I love him but he is not safe to be around for us. So I cut him off, but I still care. I have to stop the worrying by other ways than just blocking him and anything that reminds me of him out of my mind. this is a good thing for me to think about. Thank you. Birthdays are hard for moms, in my opinion. We center the whole day around our child, and while we remember that first day so clearly, we often do not recognize our contribution. Years ago my father started giving my mother gifts and special outings on my birthday and my brother's. When I had children he did the same for me on theirs. I was taught to recognize my mother on my birthday because, in my dad's amazing words, "She did all the work." His gifts to her were a thank you for giving him each of us, and to my and even still exsil whom he hates, a thank you for his beloved grandchildren. I think that you should celebrate YOURSELF on difficult child's birthday. Take time to honor the love, commitment and hard work you put into having and raising and loving him. His choices do NOT diminish all that you did, and that should be a focus of the celebration too. Recognize the pain, but try to remember the joy and that he has a very long time to get over these problems and to make it all up to you. Hope for that, and trust your HP to make it happen on HIS time. I will celebrate you this weekend in my thoughts, prayers and with something chocolate!! [/QUOTE]
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