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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 663878" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Now Jumper's boyfriend is 23 and still at home. But he does work hard at a full time job, help at home, and the entire family gets along great. (It's sickening...lol) <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> But he pays rent. And he's on the way out</p><p></p><p></p><p>I have a suggestion in another direction, one that may put the pieces of your puzzling young man together. I do think he is basically a good kid, but he is different. I can't get it out of my head that he sounds as if he has Aspergers.</p><p>So what you ask?</p><p>Lil, I have neurological differences and so does my son Sonic. Because of that, I was terrified with every job I had (and I got fired from many because I am a different type learner and in spite of a normal IQ and great vergal skills, I need to learn my job slowly. It's SCARY. Sonic never had to worry about not catching on fast enough because he had a job coach with him at his job from Day One and no longer needs one.</p><p></p><p>What if your son is afraid to work? Afraid he won't "get it" because of a neurological difference? What if you could talk him into a neuropsychologist evluation that could lead to services from the Dept. of Rehab Development who will find him a job that is compatible with his abilities and talents and offer him a job coach while he is learning the job so that it is not so scary to try.. He has so many symmptoms of a smart child with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). His unwillingness to work may instead be his fear. </p><p></p><p>Lil, there are things I can do and can't do due to neurological glitches. I can't work at McDonalds. You read that right. Too much multi-tasking, noise, and sensory stuff going on. It is not a match for me. I need a quiet atmosphere without a lot of multi-tasking and for the first time ever I get a job coach. At MY age!!! I wish they had offered these services when I was younger, but they didn't know. They know now.</p><p></p><p>Something is off about your son. Not necessarily in a bad way, but he is NOT a big drug users like many diffacult kids. He is NOT socially adept...he does not make friends easily or read people well. He is not a dummy, yet he is resistant to working. In his case, I really believe there may be a reason more than just willful defiance. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) adults and kids also lose their tempers and get frustrated more easily a nd are emotionally delayed in development. They become adults a lot later than typically neurological people do. </p><p></p><p>Just some thoughts. I would so like to see your young man feel good about himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 663878, member: 1550"] Now Jumper's boyfriend is 23 and still at home. But he does work hard at a full time job, help at home, and the entire family gets along great. (It's sickening...lol) :) But he pays rent. And he's on the way out I have a suggestion in another direction, one that may put the pieces of your puzzling young man together. I do think he is basically a good kid, but he is different. I can't get it out of my head that he sounds as if he has Aspergers. So what you ask? Lil, I have neurological differences and so does my son Sonic. Because of that, I was terrified with every job I had (and I got fired from many because I am a different type learner and in spite of a normal IQ and great vergal skills, I need to learn my job slowly. It's SCARY. Sonic never had to worry about not catching on fast enough because he had a job coach with him at his job from Day One and no longer needs one. What if your son is afraid to work? Afraid he won't "get it" because of a neurological difference? What if you could talk him into a neuropsychologist evluation that could lead to services from the Dept. of Rehab Development who will find him a job that is compatible with his abilities and talents and offer him a job coach while he is learning the job so that it is not so scary to try.. He has so many symmptoms of a smart child with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). His unwillingness to work may instead be his fear. Lil, there are things I can do and can't do due to neurological glitches. I can't work at McDonalds. You read that right. Too much multi-tasking, noise, and sensory stuff going on. It is not a match for me. I need a quiet atmosphere without a lot of multi-tasking and for the first time ever I get a job coach. At MY age!!! I wish they had offered these services when I was younger, but they didn't know. They know now. Something is off about your son. Not necessarily in a bad way, but he is NOT a big drug users like many diffacult kids. He is NOT socially adept...he does not make friends easily or read people well. He is not a dummy, yet he is resistant to working. In his case, I really believe there may be a reason more than just willful defiance. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) adults and kids also lose their tempers and get frustrated more easily a nd are emotionally delayed in development. They become adults a lot later than typically neurological people do. Just some thoughts. I would so like to see your young man feel good about himself. [/QUOTE]
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