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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 104551" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I'm curious why showering has to be negotiated? </p><p></p><p>If you set a time for showers for him every night - and stick to it - there should be NO NEED to get yourself upset OR argue. </p><p></p><p>you: We're going to set up a schedule and try to stick to it as close as possible</p><p>difficult child: OH great now you tell me when to poop and when to shower? </p><p>you: No and yes</p><p>difficult child: So when is my shower time? </p><p>You: You can choose 10:00 or 10:30 - YOUR choice </p><p>difficult child: Neither</p><p>You: Run to the garage and get a 16' whip & run back in the house with your face covered with a Michael Myers hockey mask cracking the whip </p><p>difficult child: ROFL</p><p>You: (calmly) GET IN THE SHOWER NOW</p><p>difficult child: Laughs too hard to ignore you and showers </p><p></p><p>YOU: Sit at the computer and write to us about exactly how it played out</p><p></p><p>difficult child: Gets showered and THEN can have game time until 11:00 depending on when he takes his shower. If he CHOOSES to take it at 10:00 he can have from the time he is done in the shower (after inspection) to play games. If he chooses to take a shower at 10:30 and takes a 15 minute shower HE only has 15 minutes until you unplug the computer promptly at 11:00 </p><p></p><p>GAME OVER </p><p></p><p>You are still getting him bathed and HE thinks if he takes his bath first - he thinks he gets more computer time. NO more negotiating about showers unless he's willing to "trade" you for not negotiating on something else.....like </p><p></p><p>TAKE OUT THE TRASH - no negotiations? Fine then that is the choice you have made and shower time will be from 10-10:30 your choice and you can stay on until 11:00 </p><p></p><p>You should have seen the night I ripped through our house with a HusqaVarna chain saw sans the chain screaming "TAKE A SHOWER" - I rounded the corner with the hockey mask on totin' that chain saw and difficult child laughed so hard he said "I'm not even going to argue with you about the shower anymore Mom...you are a nut." DF said "Well I guess the peace talks are out." </p><p></p><p>(He doesn't know how right he was) </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 104551, member: 4964"] I'm curious why showering has to be negotiated? If you set a time for showers for him every night - and stick to it - there should be NO NEED to get yourself upset OR argue. you: We're going to set up a schedule and try to stick to it as close as possible difficult child: OH great now you tell me when to poop and when to shower? you: No and yes difficult child: So when is my shower time? You: You can choose 10:00 or 10:30 - YOUR choice difficult child: Neither You: Run to the garage and get a 16' whip & run back in the house with your face covered with a Michael Myers hockey mask cracking the whip difficult child: ROFL You: (calmly) GET IN THE SHOWER NOW difficult child: Laughs too hard to ignore you and showers YOU: Sit at the computer and write to us about exactly how it played out difficult child: Gets showered and THEN can have game time until 11:00 depending on when he takes his shower. If he CHOOSES to take it at 10:00 he can have from the time he is done in the shower (after inspection) to play games. If he chooses to take a shower at 10:30 and takes a 15 minute shower HE only has 15 minutes until you unplug the computer promptly at 11:00 GAME OVER You are still getting him bathed and HE thinks if he takes his bath first - he thinks he gets more computer time. NO more negotiating about showers unless he's willing to "trade" you for not negotiating on something else.....like TAKE OUT THE TRASH - no negotiations? Fine then that is the choice you have made and shower time will be from 10-10:30 your choice and you can stay on until 11:00 You should have seen the night I ripped through our house with a HusqaVarna chain saw sans the chain screaming "TAKE A SHOWER" - I rounded the corner with the hockey mask on totin' that chain saw and difficult child laughed so hard he said "I'm not even going to argue with you about the shower anymore Mom...you are a nut." DF said "Well I guess the peace talks are out." (He doesn't know how right he was) Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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