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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 233110" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>It is a learned skill. By "how do YOU live With it" I assume you mean how does one </p><p>have A LIFE while someone else is dominating your world with a mental illness. As well as...how to tolerate the behaviors:daily stradegies.</p><p></p><p>My mother is bi-polar with psycotic episodes. And I had two younger siblings so I was thrust into the role of the caretaking child. I learned how to cope from the point of veiw of a child. Lucky for my family I was a loving person. Actually my Mother was a joy...when she was... and my ability to love was her gift. However</p><p>eventually I had to detach because the constant drama was just not working for me.</p><p></p><p>One book I found in the last few years is called HOW TO SURVIVE WHEN THEY're DEPRESSED by Anne Sheifield. The author was the daughter of a depressive and spent her career helping families with depressive family members. She has a lot to offer. Including the fact that this area of study is new and little researched. </p><p></p><p>What I do with the people in my world that I choose to care for and about is talk straight and honestly. When I agree to be of service in freindship I include the part where I let that person know in advance that I have limitations and that I will be doing what I need to do for my life.</p><p></p><p>One woman I befreinded, for example, I told her when I intially began helping her that I understand her diagnosis and for me I know I can not tolerate the behavior indefenatly. That is about me. What I told her I wanted her to do was to create the support group she needed. And this: DO NOT WEAR OUT YOUR SUPPORT GROUP.</p><p>Here is sage advise. When one person demonstrates how to set boundaries and take care of oneself one is showing others how to do it.</p><p>Be kind. Be clear. Be consistant. And take good care of yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 233110, member: 6271"] It is a learned skill. By "how do YOU live With it" I assume you mean how does one have A LIFE while someone else is dominating your world with a mental illness. As well as...how to tolerate the behaviors:daily stradegies. My mother is bi-polar with psycotic episodes. And I had two younger siblings so I was thrust into the role of the caretaking child. I learned how to cope from the point of veiw of a child. Lucky for my family I was a loving person. Actually my Mother was a joy...when she was... and my ability to love was her gift. However eventually I had to detach because the constant drama was just not working for me. One book I found in the last few years is called HOW TO SURVIVE WHEN THEY're DEPRESSED by Anne Sheifield. The author was the daughter of a depressive and spent her career helping families with depressive family members. She has a lot to offer. Including the fact that this area of study is new and little researched. What I do with the people in my world that I choose to care for and about is talk straight and honestly. When I agree to be of service in freindship I include the part where I let that person know in advance that I have limitations and that I will be doing what I need to do for my life. One woman I befreinded, for example, I told her when I intially began helping her that I understand her diagnosis and for me I know I can not tolerate the behavior indefenatly. That is about me. What I told her I wanted her to do was to create the support group she needed. And this: DO NOT WEAR OUT YOUR SUPPORT GROUP. Here is sage advise. When one person demonstrates how to set boundaries and take care of oneself one is showing others how to do it. Be kind. Be clear. Be consistant. And take good care of yourself. [/QUOTE]
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