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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 102233" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>His thinking is actually pretty typical. The fact the one girl was continually in trouble is irrelevant to him -- what matters is that she says hi to him in the hallways, maybe helps someone pick up some books when dropped, etc. That makes her "nice."</p><p></p><p>As to not helping because he would be beat up, too. Sadly, he's probably right. The question might have to be what would he do if he heard plans that this was going to happen? Would he go along? Would he say, "No way, I don't want any part of this?" Would he then go get help? </p><p></p><p>Peer pressure stinks. For some kids, they will do the right thing no matter what the consequences. For others, being liked is more important. It is hard to teach a teen to do the right thing. I think it is easier when a child has seen parents speak up when seeing something wrong happen when they were young. (As they get older, they just think their parents are nuts at the very best for doing so.)</p><p></p><p>This instance is a great time to have a few discussions about how important helping another is, especially if there is a chance to stop it before it goes too far. The sad thing about this event is that not only are the lives of all the kids who did the deed destroyed, so is the live of the ones who stood by and probably felt helpless to do anything and, of course, the victim. No one escapes an act like this without major damage.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 102233, member: 3626"] His thinking is actually pretty typical. The fact the one girl was continually in trouble is irrelevant to him -- what matters is that she says hi to him in the hallways, maybe helps someone pick up some books when dropped, etc. That makes her "nice." As to not helping because he would be beat up, too. Sadly, he's probably right. The question might have to be what would he do if he heard plans that this was going to happen? Would he go along? Would he say, "No way, I don't want any part of this?" Would he then go get help? Peer pressure stinks. For some kids, they will do the right thing no matter what the consequences. For others, being liked is more important. It is hard to teach a teen to do the right thing. I think it is easier when a child has seen parents speak up when seeing something wrong happen when they were young. (As they get older, they just think their parents are nuts at the very best for doing so.) This instance is a great time to have a few discussions about how important helping another is, especially if there is a chance to stop it before it goes too far. The sad thing about this event is that not only are the lives of all the kids who did the deed destroyed, so is the live of the ones who stood by and probably felt helpless to do anything and, of course, the victim. No one escapes an act like this without major damage. [/QUOTE]
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