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<blockquote data-quote="elmo1015" data-source="post: 604058" data-attributes="member: 16749"><p>I have looked up Al-anon and Codependents Anonymous. There were no meetings I could attend at that time. I do plan on attending one in the near future. I do have a therapist, but she moved and I hate driving so far to see her. I know I could get another one but I have been with her for almost 5 years off and on. She knows my situation very well. She does have the Dr. before her name but she has never prescribed me medications. I had a psychiatrist at one point, but now I have my regular doctor prescribe my medications (Wellbutrin, Xanax, and Vyanse). I have a hx of severe depression (I admitted myself at one point) and I also suffer from anxiety (I had one of my worst episodes while driving). I am currently on Wellbutrin to help me stop smoking. I am pretty sure had I not already been taking that, I would be in a much worse condition. Needless to say, I gave up on quitting after 2 days, because of all the drama in my house. I have not gone back to where I was before I quit, so I am hoping that I can quit again in a bit, when this whole issue is settled down. </p><p></p><p>I have recently started back at church. I am not sure about the church I am attending. It's a non-denominational church and I grew up Lutheran. I know I have to bring God back into my life, I am just so wrapped in everything else, I "forget" about Him. I know it's not an excuse, but it's all I have. I have been praying a lot more. The last year and half has been extremely difficult for me and also for my son. I am in no way giving him an excuse, I just want all the facts known. On Christmas night 2011 he lost 2 dear friends in a horrific car accident. The boys were not doing anything wrong, I say that because most people think they were high or drunk or speeding. It was determined by the police that none of those were true. An elderly man, who had just come from a Christmas party, most likely drinking, but it can never be proven because he left the scene after giving his information to the police, decided "he could make it". I suppose he was right, he did, however those 2 boys did not. Those 2 boys were a large part of the community. They were loved by all. They had over 1000 people show up at their Celebration of Life. I knew the boys and felt a strong bond to them. Losing them still hurts me and my son. </p><p></p><p>Yesterday at my son's first appearance hearing I found out that it is basically a waste to bail him out right now because he will just get arrested again next for his VOP. So now he will have 4 new charges against him. Supposedly, my husband and J, are going to call the state attorney and ask them to drop the charges. But he has to sit there until Tuesday or Wednesday and it is breaking my heart. My son called me last night and told me that he would go to straight to a treatment program when he got out. I am thankful for that. He also finally admitted to me that he was addicted to K2 and couldn't stop himself. So I was right, the K2 was the reason for his outbursts. I just hope he truly means it. He has never admitted the K2 to me so I am hoping that this is a sign that he does mean it. </p><p></p><p>There is one other thing I forgot to mention, his 17 yr old girlfriend is 21 weeks pregnant. Her mother abandoned her and her 2 brothers 2 months ago. She moved to another state to be with some man. Her brothers moved in with their grandparents and she moved in with us. I can see her being codependent on my son and it breaks my heart. I told her that we need to find her a therapist and she agreed. We are going to see him this morning, he already knows he can't get out until next week and it is killing him. I wish my head and my heart were on the same because it kills me to see him go through this but I know he did it to himself. I keep telling myself that but it doesn't make it any easier. </p><p></p><p>Thank you for responding, it really does help to "talk" about it to people who aren't in the situation. I have a BFF that is trying to help me. She was "scolding" me last night because of a comment I made to her. In the end, she hugged me and said I am only telling you these things because I love you and I want to help you get through this. I thought I had lost her a year ago but persistence paid off and we are friends again. There was a third person in our trio, and she is the reason that I almost lost her. My BFF distanced herself from me and the other person TC because TC was using both of us and I wouldn't make her stop. Once I finally distanced myself from TC my BFF and I were back together again. I have a really bad habit of letting people walk all over me. I can't help it, I want to help anyone and everyone I can. </p><p></p><p>Ok, I guess I am done rambling again. Thanks again for listening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elmo1015, post: 604058, member: 16749"] I have looked up Al-anon and Codependents Anonymous. There were no meetings I could attend at that time. I do plan on attending one in the near future. I do have a therapist, but she moved and I hate driving so far to see her. I know I could get another one but I have been with her for almost 5 years off and on. She knows my situation very well. She does have the Dr. before her name but she has never prescribed me medications. I had a psychiatrist at one point, but now I have my regular doctor prescribe my medications (Wellbutrin, Xanax, and Vyanse). I have a hx of severe depression (I admitted myself at one point) and I also suffer from anxiety (I had one of my worst episodes while driving). I am currently on Wellbutrin to help me stop smoking. I am pretty sure had I not already been taking that, I would be in a much worse condition. Needless to say, I gave up on quitting after 2 days, because of all the drama in my house. I have not gone back to where I was before I quit, so I am hoping that I can quit again in a bit, when this whole issue is settled down. I have recently started back at church. I am not sure about the church I am attending. It's a non-denominational church and I grew up Lutheran. I know I have to bring God back into my life, I am just so wrapped in everything else, I "forget" about Him. I know it's not an excuse, but it's all I have. I have been praying a lot more. The last year and half has been extremely difficult for me and also for my son. I am in no way giving him an excuse, I just want all the facts known. On Christmas night 2011 he lost 2 dear friends in a horrific car accident. The boys were not doing anything wrong, I say that because most people think they were high or drunk or speeding. It was determined by the police that none of those were true. An elderly man, who had just come from a Christmas party, most likely drinking, but it can never be proven because he left the scene after giving his information to the police, decided "he could make it". I suppose he was right, he did, however those 2 boys did not. Those 2 boys were a large part of the community. They were loved by all. They had over 1000 people show up at their Celebration of Life. I knew the boys and felt a strong bond to them. Losing them still hurts me and my son. Yesterday at my son's first appearance hearing I found out that it is basically a waste to bail him out right now because he will just get arrested again next for his VOP. So now he will have 4 new charges against him. Supposedly, my husband and J, are going to call the state attorney and ask them to drop the charges. But he has to sit there until Tuesday or Wednesday and it is breaking my heart. My son called me last night and told me that he would go to straight to a treatment program when he got out. I am thankful for that. He also finally admitted to me that he was addicted to K2 and couldn't stop himself. So I was right, the K2 was the reason for his outbursts. I just hope he truly means it. He has never admitted the K2 to me so I am hoping that this is a sign that he does mean it. There is one other thing I forgot to mention, his 17 yr old girlfriend is 21 weeks pregnant. Her mother abandoned her and her 2 brothers 2 months ago. She moved to another state to be with some man. Her brothers moved in with their grandparents and she moved in with us. I can see her being codependent on my son and it breaks my heart. I told her that we need to find her a therapist and she agreed. We are going to see him this morning, he already knows he can't get out until next week and it is killing him. I wish my head and my heart were on the same because it kills me to see him go through this but I know he did it to himself. I keep telling myself that but it doesn't make it any easier. Thank you for responding, it really does help to "talk" about it to people who aren't in the situation. I have a BFF that is trying to help me. She was "scolding" me last night because of a comment I made to her. In the end, she hugged me and said I am only telling you these things because I love you and I want to help you get through this. I thought I had lost her a year ago but persistence paid off and we are friends again. There was a third person in our trio, and she is the reason that I almost lost her. My BFF distanced herself from me and the other person TC because TC was using both of us and I wouldn't make her stop. Once I finally distanced myself from TC my BFF and I were back together again. I have a really bad habit of letting people walk all over me. I can't help it, I want to help anyone and everyone I can. Ok, I guess I am done rambling again. Thanks again for listening. [/QUOTE]
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