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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 626918" data-attributes="member: 15812"><p>Hi all,</p><p>Things have been up and down here. difficult child got on a pretty good streak there for a while. He's been delivering food for the same place since August</p><p>which is progress.</p><p></p><p>There is just always something. Doesn't pay this or that. No tag. Gets ticket. Ignores ticket. No insurance. Is sick far more than he ever was as a child.</p><p></p><p>I've done reasonably well with detaching. In fact, he was hateful right before Christmas. He spent it alone a mile away from me - where I was alone. It was better than dealing with his stuff.</p><p></p><p>Five weeks ago, I broke my ankle. It's pretty bad. Right after that, he was truly sick one night and asked to come over. Ended up staying a week. I had surgery on 4/29. He didn't help me get to hospital, come see me, etc. He was increasingly selfish the last few days - things like not bringing me anything to eat for hours when I was supposed to be in bed with my foot elevated to help swelling. I asked him to leave as soon as I got home from the hospital. He threatened suicide, left and called repeatedly asking to return. Nope.</p><p></p><p>Fast forward a week, he returns all sweet. He had been homeless all that time because of non-payment of rent. Was covered in ant bites. I'm on pretty heavy pain medications and still bed ridden. Stupid but I let him stay. (medications are where he cannot get them.) </p><p></p><p>Two nights ago, at 1 am, I find out he has 4 people in my house - 3 he doesn't even know. I give him 5 min to get them out. "We'll go in the driveway and smoke and talk." "No. Off my property." He ignored me. Funny but when you are in your nightgown in a wheelchair and you open your garage door to find a group of idiots standing around smoking - the right thing to do is to hit the switch to close the door. Got their attention. Idiots go home. Except for difficult child. Sigh.</p><p></p><p>Next day, he is furious. Kicks an ottoman across the room. Calls me the b word. Throws more stuff. Two of his friends see all this (they are there with my okay). One almost fights difficult child because of how he is treating me. It's really ugly. I throw difficult child out again. Friend has to wrestle difficult child to get my garage door opener back. The friends stay and clean up the mess for me even though difficult child was their ride. One insisted to check all my windows and doors. They were extremely kind and even called later to check in.</p><p></p><p>I probably have three more weeks until the cast is off. Two weeks more to transition to full weight bearing. Right now, I have to keep it elevated or my toes turn deep purple. Friends have been wonderful with helping me get the house so I can manage, with doing errands and bringing meals.</p><p></p><p>But - it's not safe to be around difficult child. If he will do this once, then it can happen again. He's supposedly staying with a friend in a awful trailer a few miles away. He texted me today that he had a wreck. I almost didn't answer but I asked if he was hurt. He said no and I didn't respond.</p><p></p><p> He still denies any substance abuse. I was told he drank about 20 beers the night with the extra people here. The next morning, he left to run an errand and stole $10 from a friend. He told her he was going to get heroin. I didn't think heroin made you that aggressive. I don't know.</p><p></p><p>He doesn't get it. All I can do is take care of me.</p><p>Thanks for reading.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 626918, member: 15812"] Hi all, Things have been up and down here. difficult child got on a pretty good streak there for a while. He's been delivering food for the same place since August which is progress. There is just always something. Doesn't pay this or that. No tag. Gets ticket. Ignores ticket. No insurance. Is sick far more than he ever was as a child. I've done reasonably well with detaching. In fact, he was hateful right before Christmas. He spent it alone a mile away from me - where I was alone. It was better than dealing with his stuff. Five weeks ago, I broke my ankle. It's pretty bad. Right after that, he was truly sick one night and asked to come over. Ended up staying a week. I had surgery on 4/29. He didn't help me get to hospital, come see me, etc. He was increasingly selfish the last few days - things like not bringing me anything to eat for hours when I was supposed to be in bed with my foot elevated to help swelling. I asked him to leave as soon as I got home from the hospital. He threatened suicide, left and called repeatedly asking to return. Nope. Fast forward a week, he returns all sweet. He had been homeless all that time because of non-payment of rent. Was covered in ant bites. I'm on pretty heavy pain medications and still bed ridden. Stupid but I let him stay. (medications are where he cannot get them.) Two nights ago, at 1 am, I find out he has 4 people in my house - 3 he doesn't even know. I give him 5 min to get them out. "We'll go in the driveway and smoke and talk." "No. Off my property." He ignored me. Funny but when you are in your nightgown in a wheelchair and you open your garage door to find a group of idiots standing around smoking - the right thing to do is to hit the switch to close the door. Got their attention. Idiots go home. Except for difficult child. Sigh. Next day, he is furious. Kicks an ottoman across the room. Calls me the b word. Throws more stuff. Two of his friends see all this (they are there with my okay). One almost fights difficult child because of how he is treating me. It's really ugly. I throw difficult child out again. Friend has to wrestle difficult child to get my garage door opener back. The friends stay and clean up the mess for me even though difficult child was their ride. One insisted to check all my windows and doors. They were extremely kind and even called later to check in. I probably have three more weeks until the cast is off. Two weeks more to transition to full weight bearing. Right now, I have to keep it elevated or my toes turn deep purple. Friends have been wonderful with helping me get the house so I can manage, with doing errands and bringing meals. But - it's not safe to be around difficult child. If he will do this once, then it can happen again. He's supposedly staying with a friend in a awful trailer a few miles away. He texted me today that he had a wreck. I almost didn't answer but I asked if he was hurt. He said no and I didn't respond. He still denies any substance abuse. I was told he drank about 20 beers the night with the extra people here. The next morning, he left to run an errand and stole $10 from a friend. He told her he was going to get heroin. I didn't think heroin made you that aggressive. I don't know. He doesn't get it. All I can do is take care of me. Thanks for reading..... [/QUOTE]
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