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<blockquote data-quote="idohope" data-source="post: 361805" data-attributes="member: 7722"><p>Hugs to you. She sounds so much like my difficult child. "You can't make me" is what I hear over and over. And the verbal abuse (you stupid jerk; f'ing this and that) has escalated to pushing and hitting. When she rages she follows me and I can not get away from her. And the rigidity is my difficult child as well. Yet she is also very dependent on me. We have mostly given up on consequences, which I know is not right, but imposing them would lead to such a physical battle I am not sure how to do it. I am not divorced but husband is in denial. He recently agreed to have her see a psychiatrist but has now said he will refuse to give her medications. So I really feel for you.</p><p></p><p>One thing that a prior therapist had us do was PCIT or parent child interactive therapy or play. You might want to google it. We did it as play when she was younger and now (since difficult child) is a great athlete, I have asked her to lead me in stretching or conditioning every day. It is a time (15 mins) each day that she leads and I follow and compliment her. We have seen improvements in the past when doing this. It can break the cycle of every day being about negative behavior. I think my difficult child will need medications, along with therapy (which she now refuses) to over come her issues but the PCIT can be a small piece along the way.</p><p></p><p>I hope you are able to get the evaluation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="idohope, post: 361805, member: 7722"] Hugs to you. She sounds so much like my difficult child. "You can't make me" is what I hear over and over. And the verbal abuse (you stupid jerk; f'ing this and that) has escalated to pushing and hitting. When she rages she follows me and I can not get away from her. And the rigidity is my difficult child as well. Yet she is also very dependent on me. We have mostly given up on consequences, which I know is not right, but imposing them would lead to such a physical battle I am not sure how to do it. I am not divorced but husband is in denial. He recently agreed to have her see a psychiatrist but has now said he will refuse to give her medications. So I really feel for you. One thing that a prior therapist had us do was PCIT or parent child interactive therapy or play. You might want to google it. We did it as play when she was younger and now (since difficult child) is a great athlete, I have asked her to lead me in stretching or conditioning every day. It is a time (15 mins) each day that she leads and I follow and compliment her. We have seen improvements in the past when doing this. It can break the cycle of every day being about negative behavior. I think my difficult child will need medications, along with therapy (which she now refuses) to over come her issues but the PCIT can be a small piece along the way. I hope you are able to get the evaluation. [/QUOTE]
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