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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 498811" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I can. My son broke my rib in a drug induced rage. He was 18 at the time. He has not lived with me since. That said, even after the assault and months of being called evey name in the book by him, having my reputation destroyed by his lies with-in our community, and having my possessions stolen and property destroyed I helped him. I got him a therapist and an attorney which I paid for. I got him court ordered into treatment, which he walked away from. I got him into another program which he did not complete. More programs all to no avail. I finally, <em><u><strong><span style="color: #ff0000">with alot of co dependant recovery work </span></strong></u></em>realized that I could not help someone who would not help themselves. I learned that it was OK to live my life free of abuse and seek my own happiness. </p><p></p><p>As for him? My difficult child continues to be violent with whoever he happened to be living with. He has a second assault charge though there have been more. He also has several burgleries, a DWI and an unauthorized use of a motor vihicle. He is now in jail, possibly for 7 years, as a result of one of his drunken rages. I write him occasionally and I take the occasional phone call. I do not feel any obligation to help him in any way. I suggest that you go to both AA meetings and Coda meetings. You are not just an alcoholic you are also a co-dependant. You cannot recover from this on your own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 498811, member: 2315"] I can. My son broke my rib in a drug induced rage. He was 18 at the time. He has not lived with me since. That said, even after the assault and months of being called evey name in the book by him, having my reputation destroyed by his lies with-in our community, and having my possessions stolen and property destroyed I helped him. I got him a therapist and an attorney which I paid for. I got him court ordered into treatment, which he walked away from. I got him into another program which he did not complete. More programs all to no avail. I finally, [I][U][B][COLOR=#ff0000]with alot of co dependant recovery work [/COLOR][/B][/U][/I]realized that I could not help someone who would not help themselves. I learned that it was OK to live my life free of abuse and seek my own happiness. As for him? My difficult child continues to be violent with whoever he happened to be living with. He has a second assault charge though there have been more. He also has several burgleries, a DWI and an unauthorized use of a motor vihicle. He is now in jail, possibly for 7 years, as a result of one of his drunken rages. I write him occasionally and I take the occasional phone call. I do not feel any obligation to help him in any way. I suggest that you go to both AA meetings and Coda meetings. You are not just an alcoholic you are also a co-dependant. You cannot recover from this on your own. [/QUOTE]
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