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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 500430" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>ANother update-I talked to te states' attorney on Wednesday and she said there was obviously a mental poroblem tat had to be addressed. they didn't know if he was competent to stand trial. I felt that this was a bit over the top but she said they would keep him until Monday and then have a psychiatrist evaluate him. SHe said she didn't feel it would help him to just keep him in jail and then do exactly the same as before he went in. Tey were going to try and find him a halfway house or residential rehab and address multiple problems. I almost cried with relief-finally someone understands and wants to help! She said she'd talked at length with the Public Defender and he agreed. There was hope!</p><p></p><p>That evening I get a call saying he had been RELEASED! I would not let him come home. He called the following morning and I said I would pick him up after my work-we are outside Chicago in subfreezing temps and he has no money and no warm clothes when he was arrested. THe was freezing when I picked him up and adn't eaten in 36 hours. He had spent the night in the Casino bathrooms trying to get some sleep when they kicked him out. I brought him home with the full intention of finding a sober ouse. I called the Public Defenders' office and asked what had happened to all the evaluation/rehab plans and he said the county doesn't really have those facilities. I asked if they'd given him a list of where to look and he said no, my son would have to find those himself.</p><p></p><p>My son was is quite good spirits about the future, how he was going to stay off the alcohol for ever because it was landing him in the places he didn't want to be and that was going to be his future unless he wised up. He woke up this morning and took some xanax for anxiety and said he would spend the say looking for residential rehabs. I get home from work. The house smells like weed. He is crumpled up in an almost comatose type of ball. I go upstairs and there's a half bottle of rum on his bedroom floor. My younger son said that 2 guys from craiglist came over, almost one after the other, who I imagine provided the drugs and alcohol. There's a blizzard outside-snowed all day and subzero temps. </p><p></p><p>Part of his probation is to return to court on Feb 9th and prove that he is in a halfway house, has had a drug and alcohol evaluation and needs a psychiatrist letter. He is allowed to contact me but not to have any contact with the residence. So he's on my couch, wasted after prostituting himself for booze and weed. It hasn't even been 24 hours until he came home.</p><p></p><p>Sorry this is so long. I'm almost not in shock. Normally I feel like there's a rock in my guts because I know the weekend is gonna suck. I really feel at the point when I'm done. It has taken so long.....but nothing has changed. SO do I see if there's gonna be a reall effort this time, like he promised me only yesterday? </p><p></p><p>Or do I call the cops/public defender and say he's been out of jail 24 hours and has already violated the conditions of his court supervision??</p><p></p><p>Thanks for all and anyone who got through this and has the patience with this ridiculous saga to give me some advice....even though you have already done so much for me! I was truly expecting to come home from work through this horrendous snowstorm and have a peaceful weekend.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 500430, member: 13561"] ANother update-I talked to te states' attorney on Wednesday and she said there was obviously a mental poroblem tat had to be addressed. they didn't know if he was competent to stand trial. I felt that this was a bit over the top but she said they would keep him until Monday and then have a psychiatrist evaluate him. SHe said she didn't feel it would help him to just keep him in jail and then do exactly the same as before he went in. Tey were going to try and find him a halfway house or residential rehab and address multiple problems. I almost cried with relief-finally someone understands and wants to help! She said she'd talked at length with the Public Defender and he agreed. There was hope! That evening I get a call saying he had been RELEASED! I would not let him come home. He called the following morning and I said I would pick him up after my work-we are outside Chicago in subfreezing temps and he has no money and no warm clothes when he was arrested. THe was freezing when I picked him up and adn't eaten in 36 hours. He had spent the night in the Casino bathrooms trying to get some sleep when they kicked him out. I brought him home with the full intention of finding a sober ouse. I called the Public Defenders' office and asked what had happened to all the evaluation/rehab plans and he said the county doesn't really have those facilities. I asked if they'd given him a list of where to look and he said no, my son would have to find those himself. My son was is quite good spirits about the future, how he was going to stay off the alcohol for ever because it was landing him in the places he didn't want to be and that was going to be his future unless he wised up. He woke up this morning and took some xanax for anxiety and said he would spend the say looking for residential rehabs. I get home from work. The house smells like weed. He is crumpled up in an almost comatose type of ball. I go upstairs and there's a half bottle of rum on his bedroom floor. My younger son said that 2 guys from craiglist came over, almost one after the other, who I imagine provided the drugs and alcohol. There's a blizzard outside-snowed all day and subzero temps. Part of his probation is to return to court on Feb 9th and prove that he is in a halfway house, has had a drug and alcohol evaluation and needs a psychiatrist letter. He is allowed to contact me but not to have any contact with the residence. So he's on my couch, wasted after prostituting himself for booze and weed. It hasn't even been 24 hours until he came home. Sorry this is so long. I'm almost not in shock. Normally I feel like there's a rock in my guts because I know the weekend is gonna suck. I really feel at the point when I'm done. It has taken so long.....but nothing has changed. SO do I see if there's gonna be a reall effort this time, like he promised me only yesterday? Or do I call the cops/public defender and say he's been out of jail 24 hours and has already violated the conditions of his court supervision?? Thanks for all and anyone who got through this and has the patience with this ridiculous saga to give me some advice....even though you have already done so much for me! I was truly expecting to come home from work through this horrendous snowstorm and have a peaceful weekend. [/QUOTE]
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