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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 501987"><p>Your son is in his twenties, has been to jail and is a young adult.</p><p>Time for him to take charge of his own life and of course, you need to do the same.</p><p></p><p>Are you going to AA? That takes priority, but you might want to go to Al Anon as well.</p><p>Read all the detachment literature you can get ahold of. It's super hard, but super necessary to step aside from your son's issues and work on your own. If for no other reason, you will set a good example for your son if you take good care of yourself and get sober. First requirement: shake your emotion out of this. Hard, but totally necessary.</p><p></p><p>Some other thoughts: Not sure what it means exactly that he is not to have any contact with "the residence." I'm wondering if that means your home....???? Just saw your other post re: him coming to your house and it smelling like weed, etc. I hope you can make that the LAST time this happens. Do not let him back to your house and if he comes back, get him OUT. Change the locks (if he has a key). If he gets in and refuses to leave, call the police. If you smell pot, automatically call the police...don't even think about it.</p><p></p><p>What a blessing for you that you have such a caring sister. If you two get along and you feel she has a good head on her shoulders and your best interest at heart, then I would double check things with her and rely on her advice when you aren't sure of yourself.</p><p></p><p>Considering reading some or all of this link:</p><p><a href="http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/" target="_blank"><span style="color: #315771">Developing Detachment | LIVESTRONG.COM</span></a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 501987"] Your son is in his twenties, has been to jail and is a young adult. Time for him to take charge of his own life and of course, you need to do the same. Are you going to AA? That takes priority, but you might want to go to Al Anon as well. Read all the detachment literature you can get ahold of. It's super hard, but super necessary to step aside from your son's issues and work on your own. If for no other reason, you will set a good example for your son if you take good care of yourself and get sober. First requirement: shake your emotion out of this. Hard, but totally necessary. Some other thoughts: Not sure what it means exactly that he is not to have any contact with "the residence." I'm wondering if that means your home....???? Just saw your other post re: him coming to your house and it smelling like weed, etc. I hope you can make that the LAST time this happens. Do not let him back to your house and if he comes back, get him OUT. Change the locks (if he has a key). If he gets in and refuses to leave, call the police. If you smell pot, automatically call the police...don't even think about it. What a blessing for you that you have such a caring sister. If you two get along and you feel she has a good head on her shoulders and your best interest at heart, then I would double check things with her and rely on her advice when you aren't sure of yourself. Considering reading some or all of this link: [URL="http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/"][COLOR=#315771]Developing Detachment | LIVESTRONG.COM[/COLOR][/URL] [/QUOTE]
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