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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 195887" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>At one point in my life (as a teen) I was dealing with a lot and really really really wanted to hurt myself. I would take books and tear them into tiny little pieces. The books were old ones that the used bookstore I worked in had WAY too many of (no one needed 57 copies of Jaws, or of old harlequin romances, etc.... - no real literature was harmed, I promise!). anyway, sometimes I just ripped the books to shreds, and this kept me from ripping myself to shreds.</p><p> </p><p>To pamper yourself you can do a salt scrub very easily. Be sure you have no little cuts on your skin. If you have cuts, do a sugar scrub - substitute sugar for the salt.</p><p> </p><p>Use salt, olive or canola or vegetable oil, and a drop or three of essential oil. Mix them so the salt is well mixed, covered in oil if you will, but the salt should not be dissolved. Same for sugar. If you have coarse grain salt, or turbinado sugar these work well. You can massage your feet and hands with this, then shower it off. If your face is in need of exfoliation the sugar scrub is very nice. </p><p> </p><p>Learn something new. Soapmaking is interesting, you can be creative but there is a lot of stirring which I find mindless and can empty my mind while I do it. I make a homemade soap with ground oats (old fashioned oats run through the blender of food processor until they are not powdered but chopped up some), and essential oils of cinnamon and vanilla. It is great to use. </p><p> </p><p>If you don't want to go the whole soapmaking route, you can buy the melt and pour soap at the hobby store and mix in the oils and oats, even add some shea butter, olive oil, emu oil, or whatever you like to make it more moisturizing. This is a very quick way to have some really nice soap customized for you. You can add your favorite perfume instead of the essential oils if you like.</p><p> </p><p>Make a rice bag with some cloth. Add lavendar from the bulk section of the health food store (or eucalyptus) with the rice. Just sew a square or rectangle, add the rice and lavendar, and sew it shut. Peppermint is also nice when added - if you don't have a health food store you can buy peppermint tea and open up a few bags into the rice bag. This can be microwaved and will be very soothing.</p><p> </p><p>Learn to cross stitch (want me to send you a kit? or a pattern? Just let me know, I have patterns for most everything, and lots and lots of supplies I can share.) Or learn to quilt. Maybe take some of M's old shirts and make a tshirt quilt. If you want to reach out to him, make a lap sized quilt and send it. I did this when my bro was in a car accident. I was several states away and we couldn't afford for me to fly back and see him. I bought 6 bandannas and fabric for the backing and the batting for the insides. I sewed the bandannas together, then finished the quilt and tied it (little knots tied through rather than sewing a pattern through all of the layers). I sent it with a note that it was a hug from me. I even wrote that on the back of the quilt. </p><p> </p><p>Try journaling, write down everything that seems too much to bear. Listen to music and let yourself cry if you need to. I have a friend that cries to Pink Floyd, while Amy Grant tends to help me cry. Whatever helps you let it out. Scream into a pillow.</p><p> </p><p>Bake yourself a coffeecake.</p><p> </p><p>Remember we care about you and M.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 195887, member: 1233"] At one point in my life (as a teen) I was dealing with a lot and really really really wanted to hurt myself. I would take books and tear them into tiny little pieces. The books were old ones that the used bookstore I worked in had WAY too many of (no one needed 57 copies of Jaws, or of old harlequin romances, etc.... - no real literature was harmed, I promise!). anyway, sometimes I just ripped the books to shreds, and this kept me from ripping myself to shreds. To pamper yourself you can do a salt scrub very easily. Be sure you have no little cuts on your skin. If you have cuts, do a sugar scrub - substitute sugar for the salt. Use salt, olive or canola or vegetable oil, and a drop or three of essential oil. Mix them so the salt is well mixed, covered in oil if you will, but the salt should not be dissolved. Same for sugar. If you have coarse grain salt, or turbinado sugar these work well. You can massage your feet and hands with this, then shower it off. If your face is in need of exfoliation the sugar scrub is very nice. Learn something new. Soapmaking is interesting, you can be creative but there is a lot of stirring which I find mindless and can empty my mind while I do it. I make a homemade soap with ground oats (old fashioned oats run through the blender of food processor until they are not powdered but chopped up some), and essential oils of cinnamon and vanilla. It is great to use. If you don't want to go the whole soapmaking route, you can buy the melt and pour soap at the hobby store and mix in the oils and oats, even add some shea butter, olive oil, emu oil, or whatever you like to make it more moisturizing. This is a very quick way to have some really nice soap customized for you. You can add your favorite perfume instead of the essential oils if you like. Make a rice bag with some cloth. Add lavendar from the bulk section of the health food store (or eucalyptus) with the rice. Just sew a square or rectangle, add the rice and lavendar, and sew it shut. Peppermint is also nice when added - if you don't have a health food store you can buy peppermint tea and open up a few bags into the rice bag. This can be microwaved and will be very soothing. Learn to cross stitch (want me to send you a kit? or a pattern? Just let me know, I have patterns for most everything, and lots and lots of supplies I can share.) Or learn to quilt. Maybe take some of M's old shirts and make a tshirt quilt. If you want to reach out to him, make a lap sized quilt and send it. I did this when my bro was in a car accident. I was several states away and we couldn't afford for me to fly back and see him. I bought 6 bandannas and fabric for the backing and the batting for the insides. I sewed the bandannas together, then finished the quilt and tied it (little knots tied through rather than sewing a pattern through all of the layers). I sent it with a note that it was a hug from me. I even wrote that on the back of the quilt. Try journaling, write down everything that seems too much to bear. Listen to music and let yourself cry if you need to. I have a friend that cries to Pink Floyd, while Amy Grant tends to help me cry. Whatever helps you let it out. Scream into a pillow. Bake yourself a coffeecake. Remember we care about you and M. [/QUOTE]
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