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Made a big decision about my difficult child and I'm just sick
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<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 17348"><p>Part of this pain in my humble opinion is that he's so young. If he were a teen and already had some independence it might be easier on you. As Timer said, geography isn't everything. The first time mine was out of the house I was a basket case. But it does get better as he settles in.</p><p></p><p>My guiding philosophy has always been to try to keep my emotions out of any of these decisions. What is best for my child? If I make the decision on that basis I figure I can live with it for the rest of my life without regret.</p><p></p><p>About moving states, custody and so forth, my suggestion would be to take the advice of an attorney. In my experience since you are the full time caregiver and husband may not be a great one for the kids the kids go with the Mom. Extended family is a factor, as is housing options, better schools, job options for you, childcare situations, etc, etc. But it's really which parent can better care for the children that guides these things. But nothing is carved in stone and today's decision is tomorrow's appeal. I wouldn't factor that into any decision right now.</p><p></p><p>Along those lines, you're not signing away parental rights here. His other parent is going to care for him for awhile. Custody can always be changed, if it doesn't work out he'll be back. Don't think of it as a forever decision!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 17348"] Part of this pain in my humble opinion is that he's so young. If he were a teen and already had some independence it might be easier on you. As Timer said, geography isn't everything. The first time mine was out of the house I was a basket case. But it does get better as he settles in. My guiding philosophy has always been to try to keep my emotions out of any of these decisions. What is best for my child? If I make the decision on that basis I figure I can live with it for the rest of my life without regret. About moving states, custody and so forth, my suggestion would be to take the advice of an attorney. In my experience since you are the full time caregiver and husband may not be a great one for the kids the kids go with the Mom. Extended family is a factor, as is housing options, better schools, job options for you, childcare situations, etc, etc. But it's really which parent can better care for the children that guides these things. But nothing is carved in stone and today's decision is tomorrow's appeal. I wouldn't factor that into any decision right now. Along those lines, you're not signing away parental rights here. His other parent is going to care for him for awhile. Custody can always be changed, if it doesn't work out he'll be back. Don't think of it as a forever decision! [/QUOTE]
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