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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 360028" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>First of all (((hugs))) many of us have been there.</p><p></p><p>I know you are exhausted but if you can find one day's energy and about $50, you can get some control.</p><p></p><p>1. Get both children out of the house, preferably leaving SO to stay and help you but if you can't find anyone to take them then have SO do it.</p><p></p><p>2. Go to your local hardware store and buy two outdoor locks. </p><p></p><p>3. Install one lock on your bedroom door and one on your son's bedroom door. </p><p></p><p>4. Go through the whole house and anything that you want kept safe from her, put in your room. Put all of your son's things in his room. </p><p></p><p>5. Search her room and get all your stuff back. Lock it up.</p><p></p><p>6. Have a cup of tea.</p><p></p><p>7. Take the kittens to the shelter - you are in crisis mode, you cannot take care of them right now.</p><p></p><p>8. Have your son come home. Explain to him that the lock on his door is to keep his stuff safe from his sister. Make sure he knows that he must make sure it is locked every time he leaves his room - even just to go to the bathroom. Let him know that he has the right to have his stuff safe and that you are trying to get help for his sister so she stops stealing but you wanted him to feel safe in the meantime.</p><p></p><p>9. Have your daughter come home. Explain to her that both yours and her brother's rooms are now locked to keep her out. That because she seems unable to stop her stealing, you have taken steps to ensure that everyone's things are safe while she learns to stop stealing. (Do you have logical consequences for her stealing - e.g. each time she is caught stealing something, an item of hers is taken from her in addition to giving back the stolen item - if she can't return the stolen item because she ate/broke/lost it, then she loses two of her things.)</p><p></p><p>10. If it is an issue for her, lock up all knives and medications (rx and otc) as well.</p><p></p><p>When Kanga was at her worst, I wore a fanny pack around the house with the keys to the locked rooms and my cell phone. I know mom's who have worn the key on a shoelace around their neck (Kanga would have strangled me with it - I couldn't wear anything around my neck!). If your daughter is not violent, that might be easier than a fanny pack.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 360028, member: 1169"] First of all (((hugs))) many of us have been there. I know you are exhausted but if you can find one day's energy and about $50, you can get some control. 1. Get both children out of the house, preferably leaving SO to stay and help you but if you can't find anyone to take them then have SO do it. 2. Go to your local hardware store and buy two outdoor locks. 3. Install one lock on your bedroom door and one on your son's bedroom door. 4. Go through the whole house and anything that you want kept safe from her, put in your room. Put all of your son's things in his room. 5. Search her room and get all your stuff back. Lock it up. 6. Have a cup of tea. 7. Take the kittens to the shelter - you are in crisis mode, you cannot take care of them right now. 8. Have your son come home. Explain to him that the lock on his door is to keep his stuff safe from his sister. Make sure he knows that he must make sure it is locked every time he leaves his room - even just to go to the bathroom. Let him know that he has the right to have his stuff safe and that you are trying to get help for his sister so she stops stealing but you wanted him to feel safe in the meantime. 9. Have your daughter come home. Explain to her that both yours and her brother's rooms are now locked to keep her out. That because she seems unable to stop her stealing, you have taken steps to ensure that everyone's things are safe while she learns to stop stealing. (Do you have logical consequences for her stealing - e.g. each time she is caught stealing something, an item of hers is taken from her in addition to giving back the stolen item - if she can't return the stolen item because she ate/broke/lost it, then she loses two of her things.) 10. If it is an issue for her, lock up all knives and medications (rx and otc) as well. When Kanga was at her worst, I wore a fanny pack around the house with the keys to the locked rooms and my cell phone. I know mom's who have worn the key on a shoelace around their neck (Kanga would have strangled me with it - I couldn't wear anything around my neck!). If your daughter is not violent, that might be easier than a fanny pack. [/QUOTE]
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