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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 380368" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Nvts, having been in a very similar situation, I know my difficult child was so close to being in an institutional environment that it still gives me pause. Puberty(11 to 15) were a nightmare. difficult child was a raging volcano of hormones coupled with his particular challenges and it was an intolerable home life for all of us. </p><p>The p-hospital had done everything they could do in terms of medication. Nothing worked. </p><p>He went to a residential facility. At the time, I did not know of any specific for AS. If I did, I would have gone that route. Still the program was what stopped his never ending downward spiral. It wasn't pretty and I was pretty desparate to save my boy. </p><p>My question was and still is "what does my son need?" It helps me navigate the hodge podge of services and possibilities. </p><p>I never, ever thought of it as throwing in the towel. I made sure he understood that we loved him but his behaviors were unsafe, uncivilized and that his new surroundings were an effort to help him learn better behaviors, self control and come to more internal peace. </p><p>Remind him over and over that this is not punishment. It is a godsend for him and for the family unit. </p><p>All the professionals will give you suggestions and recommendations but look at your son and ask yourself "what does he need".</p><p></p><p>There are more choices for kids with AS than when we were going through this phase which is fortunate. Hang in there. What you see today is not necessarily what you will see in 5yrs. No one had walked this path who could tell me that but I want you to know that a delay doesn't mean it isn't going to happen. Pace yourself, contain the fear, toss the guilt and put that warrior mom hat on to do what's best for your child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 380368, member: 3"] Nvts, having been in a very similar situation, I know my difficult child was so close to being in an institutional environment that it still gives me pause. Puberty(11 to 15) were a nightmare. difficult child was a raging volcano of hormones coupled with his particular challenges and it was an intolerable home life for all of us. The p-hospital had done everything they could do in terms of medication. Nothing worked. He went to a residential facility. At the time, I did not know of any specific for AS. If I did, I would have gone that route. Still the program was what stopped his never ending downward spiral. It wasn't pretty and I was pretty desparate to save my boy. My question was and still is "what does my son need?" It helps me navigate the hodge podge of services and possibilities. I never, ever thought of it as throwing in the towel. I made sure he understood that we loved him but his behaviors were unsafe, uncivilized and that his new surroundings were an effort to help him learn better behaviors, self control and come to more internal peace. Remind him over and over that this is not punishment. It is a godsend for him and for the family unit. All the professionals will give you suggestions and recommendations but look at your son and ask yourself "what does he need". There are more choices for kids with AS than when we were going through this phase which is fortunate. Hang in there. What you see today is not necessarily what you will see in 5yrs. No one had walked this path who could tell me that but I want you to know that a delay doesn't mean it isn't going to happen. Pace yourself, contain the fear, toss the guilt and put that warrior mom hat on to do what's best for your child. [/QUOTE]
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