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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 251063" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>As an alternative to going into assisted care, would she NOW agree to wear the emergency button? You have good leverage now, you could make it clear that she has run out of chances and MUST always wear that button. If she had had the button round her neck, she could have got help immediately and not risked pneumonia.</p><p></p><p>mother in law is stubborn like tihs, I know she will refuse to go into a nursing home. She also would refuse to wear a button, but I know if it was the last resort before having to go to a nursing home, she would wear it.</p><p></p><p>There are things you can do, as an alert (even if she won't wear a call button). Similar tricks to ones they use in banks, to alert incoming staff that there is a bank robbery in progress. What are her usual morning habits? Does she always raise the blinds at a certain time? Can you alert a neighbour to watch for the blinds to go up by a certain time? Failure for the blinds to be raised can be a signal to go check on her. Another trick is a daily phone call (or twice-daily) at set times. The call needn't be to you guys, it can be arranged between her and other friends. Failure to make the call = go check on her.</p><p>Then there is the call button which she should now wear at all times. If she agrees - do spot checks. Warn her she has had her last chance.</p><p></p><p>Bad as she is at the moment, she could still stay out of nursing home if she now agrees to cooperate instead. Get an Occupational Therapist (OT) to assess her home to reduce the chance of her falling again. Mats can be made more non-slip, for example. Plus she perhaps needs to re-think some of her economies, in order to increase her chances of living independently for as long as possible. If the house had been warmer or she had been wearing warmer pyjamas, her bladder wouldn't have had to cut loose so much (exposure to cold reduces your pituitary's production of vasopressin, in much the same way as alcohol intake does; therefore exposure to cold make you pee a lot more).</p><p></p><p>Maybe while she is in hospital you can get the social worker to talk some sense into her, about the ways in which she MUST now cooperate if she wants to stay independent for a little longer.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 251063, member: 1991"] As an alternative to going into assisted care, would she NOW agree to wear the emergency button? You have good leverage now, you could make it clear that she has run out of chances and MUST always wear that button. If she had had the button round her neck, she could have got help immediately and not risked pneumonia. mother in law is stubborn like tihs, I know she will refuse to go into a nursing home. She also would refuse to wear a button, but I know if it was the last resort before having to go to a nursing home, she would wear it. There are things you can do, as an alert (even if she won't wear a call button). Similar tricks to ones they use in banks, to alert incoming staff that there is a bank robbery in progress. What are her usual morning habits? Does she always raise the blinds at a certain time? Can you alert a neighbour to watch for the blinds to go up by a certain time? Failure for the blinds to be raised can be a signal to go check on her. Another trick is a daily phone call (or twice-daily) at set times. The call needn't be to you guys, it can be arranged between her and other friends. Failure to make the call = go check on her. Then there is the call button which she should now wear at all times. If she agrees - do spot checks. Warn her she has had her last chance. Bad as she is at the moment, she could still stay out of nursing home if she now agrees to cooperate instead. Get an Occupational Therapist (OT) to assess her home to reduce the chance of her falling again. Mats can be made more non-slip, for example. Plus she perhaps needs to re-think some of her economies, in order to increase her chances of living independently for as long as possible. If the house had been warmer or she had been wearing warmer pyjamas, her bladder wouldn't have had to cut loose so much (exposure to cold reduces your pituitary's production of vasopressin, in much the same way as alcohol intake does; therefore exposure to cold make you pee a lot more). Maybe while she is in hospital you can get the social worker to talk some sense into her, about the ways in which she MUST now cooperate if she wants to stay independent for a little longer. Marg [/QUOTE]
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