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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 363492" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Gotta love them, yes. Like them, not necessarily!</p><p> </p><p>in my opinion - the "love" does <em>not</em> need to be spread "equally". I <em>guarantee</em> from knowing you here that you don't love Manster and husband the same way!!! LOL ... OK that's cold, but it's very true. Maybe during a non-rage time, you could explain this? The <em>amount</em> of love is equal, the <em>kind</em> of love is different.</p><p> </p><p>Several years back husband was ordered by the court to take a parenting class. I went with him (the court loved that, not being sarcastic). Most of the "tools" they gave us work pretty well on Jett. Onyxx - not at all. But one of them that comes to mind... Is the cup story. This might be irrelevant but Beth made me think of it.</p><p> </p><p>A child places their half-full cup on the edge of the table. "Don't spill your drink!" - and the next thing you know, it's all over the table and floor. "Don't" doesn't get heard - neither does "can't", etc. OR... "Why don't you move that further up so it doesn't spill." Child moves cup, does NOT knock it over.</p><p> </p><p>OK back to the original subject. Yeah, Manster really needs to know you love him. BUT - big BUT - he also needs to understand that you don't LIKE some of his behavior. That you LOVE him no matter how he acts, but you're HAPPIER when he behaves well.</p><p> </p><p>Kids want their parents to love them...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 363492, member: 6705"] Gotta love them, yes. Like them, not necessarily! in my opinion - the "love" does [I]not[/I] need to be spread "equally". I [I]guarantee[/I] from knowing you here that you don't love Manster and husband the same way!!! LOL ... OK that's cold, but it's very true. Maybe during a non-rage time, you could explain this? The [I]amount[/I] of love is equal, the [I]kind[/I] of love is different. Several years back husband was ordered by the court to take a parenting class. I went with him (the court loved that, not being sarcastic). Most of the "tools" they gave us work pretty well on Jett. Onyxx - not at all. But one of them that comes to mind... Is the cup story. This might be irrelevant but Beth made me think of it. A child places their half-full cup on the edge of the table. "Don't spill your drink!" - and the next thing you know, it's all over the table and floor. "Don't" doesn't get heard - neither does "can't", etc. OR... "Why don't you move that further up so it doesn't spill." Child moves cup, does NOT knock it over. OK back to the original subject. Yeah, Manster really needs to know you love him. BUT - big BUT - he also needs to understand that you don't LIKE some of his behavior. That you LOVE him no matter how he acts, but you're HAPPIER when he behaves well. Kids want their parents to love them... [/QUOTE]
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