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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 435640" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well.........it can certainly take it's toll if you let it. Notice how I phrased that. </p><p></p><p>First of all, you both need to be on the same page as far as rules/consequences ect. That way you're backing each other up instead of being able to be pitted against each other. </p><p></p><p>I also made husband tag along for every single doctor visit. That way HE knew what was going on first hand and docs ect could explain it to him at the same time as me. (this helped enormously) And he had to go to every single IEP meeting with me for the same reason.</p><p></p><p>Those things were very important as they helped us work together as a team.</p><p></p><p>Then.........we were careful to take time for US. Not easy to do when there was no one to watch the kids. But kids had early bedtimes so that Mom and Dad had their time alone together with no difficult children. When they were older and we were able we made a monthly date night where we went out and did something fun together.</p><p></p><p>And make sure you're each getting some de-stressing time alone as well. Some time away from difficult children to enjoy whether it be a walk or in your room reading a book or a lunch date with the girls......</p><p></p><p>It didn't make it perfect, but it made it bearable and much easier to deal with.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 435640, member: 84"] Well.........it can certainly take it's toll if you let it. Notice how I phrased that. First of all, you both need to be on the same page as far as rules/consequences ect. That way you're backing each other up instead of being able to be pitted against each other. I also made husband tag along for every single doctor visit. That way HE knew what was going on first hand and docs ect could explain it to him at the same time as me. (this helped enormously) And he had to go to every single IEP meeting with me for the same reason. Those things were very important as they helped us work together as a team. Then.........we were careful to take time for US. Not easy to do when there was no one to watch the kids. But kids had early bedtimes so that Mom and Dad had their time alone together with no difficult children. When they were older and we were able we made a monthly date night where we went out and did something fun together. And make sure you're each getting some de-stressing time alone as well. Some time away from difficult children to enjoy whether it be a walk or in your room reading a book or a lunch date with the girls...... It didn't make it perfect, but it made it bearable and much easier to deal with. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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