Hello everyone--
I feel like this is a really dumb question....and frankly, a little bit embarassing--so I am very glad to have some anonymity here....
So here it goes....
difficult child had her second appointment with the new psychiatrist today. And once again, I am getting that vibe that the doctor suspects that husband and I are abusing this child.
On the ride home, difficult child confirmed my suspicions because she told me that the doctor asked a lot of questions about whether her Dad has a bad temper and whether difficult child's parents are a lot different than other parents and stuff like that. And difficult child said that she told the doctor that for some reason, the first thing that new docs suspect when she meets them is that she must be acting out and having rages because of parental abuse--and as far as difficult child is concerned, her parents are pretty much just like all of her friend's parents.
The doctor explained to difficult child that the reason new docs probably suspect abuse (and I am paraphrasing here) is because difficult child's Mom (meaning me) presents as a person who lives in an abusive family....
Now luckily, difficult child did not say these things as directly as I've presented them here. She was talking about her session in kind of a rambling, o yeah and we talked about this....and o yeah I told her about that....and doctor suggested I do this...etc
So when I realized what difficult child said that doctor suspected, she couldn't tell that I was struck by that statement....
And, if the doctor feels that I act like a person who lives in an abusive home....well, the doctor is exactly right.
Except that difficult child is the abuser....not my husband.
Is that really possible? Can I really be the victim of "Mother Abuse"?
It might be true.
The person that I fear most in all this world is my daughter....Not so much for what she might do to me (that I think I can handle), but for what she might do to my son....for what she has already done to my son....and for what she continues to try to do to my son.
Is there something wrong with me?
Am I a bad parent because my family is living this way--me constantly in fear for my son and constantly feling that I have to protect him from his sister?
Should I tell the doctor that I feel this way? Would that make things even worse?
I am really embarassed about this whole thing...
--DaisyFace
I feel like this is a really dumb question....and frankly, a little bit embarassing--so I am very glad to have some anonymity here....
So here it goes....
difficult child had her second appointment with the new psychiatrist today. And once again, I am getting that vibe that the doctor suspects that husband and I are abusing this child.
On the ride home, difficult child confirmed my suspicions because she told me that the doctor asked a lot of questions about whether her Dad has a bad temper and whether difficult child's parents are a lot different than other parents and stuff like that. And difficult child said that she told the doctor that for some reason, the first thing that new docs suspect when she meets them is that she must be acting out and having rages because of parental abuse--and as far as difficult child is concerned, her parents are pretty much just like all of her friend's parents.
The doctor explained to difficult child that the reason new docs probably suspect abuse (and I am paraphrasing here) is because difficult child's Mom (meaning me) presents as a person who lives in an abusive family....
Now luckily, difficult child did not say these things as directly as I've presented them here. She was talking about her session in kind of a rambling, o yeah and we talked about this....and o yeah I told her about that....and doctor suggested I do this...etc
So when I realized what difficult child said that doctor suspected, she couldn't tell that I was struck by that statement....
And, if the doctor feels that I act like a person who lives in an abusive home....well, the doctor is exactly right.
Except that difficult child is the abuser....not my husband.
Is that really possible? Can I really be the victim of "Mother Abuse"?
It might be true.
The person that I fear most in all this world is my daughter....Not so much for what she might do to me (that I think I can handle), but for what she might do to my son....for what she has already done to my son....and for what she continues to try to do to my son.
Is there something wrong with me?
Am I a bad parent because my family is living this way--me constantly in fear for my son and constantly feling that I have to protect him from his sister?
Should I tell the doctor that I feel this way? Would that make things even worse?
I am really embarassed about this whole thing...
--DaisyFace