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Meeting birthfamily--effect on behavior?
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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 440705" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>All of my children are adopted. Only Kanga has ever expressed a strong tug to see her birthmom. She has some vague memories of a woman that she thinks is her. (Kanga was 2 when she was removed from the birthhome and almost 5 when birthmom stopped visiting.). I told her that we will help her search when she is 25. Thankfully, she seems content with that as birthmom has a facebook page with the message "Looking for my sweet girl Kanga, please call me at 555-555-5555" so it'd be a 2 second search to find her. </p><p></p><p>In our cases, the birthparents were violent or drug users or severely mentally ill or a combination of all 3. I'm very concerned about any potential meetings.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I've read several articles about how the internet has changed how adoption searches are being done -- and not for the better. While it is easier to 'find' each other, meetings are often done on the spur of the moment and without counseling in place to help all members of the triad with the impact.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad that you are helping her with this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 440705, member: 1169"] All of my children are adopted. Only Kanga has ever expressed a strong tug to see her birthmom. She has some vague memories of a woman that she thinks is her. (Kanga was 2 when she was removed from the birthhome and almost 5 when birthmom stopped visiting.). I told her that we will help her search when she is 25. Thankfully, she seems content with that as birthmom has a facebook page with the message "Looking for my sweet girl Kanga, please call me at 555-555-5555" so it'd be a 2 second search to find her. In our cases, the birthparents were violent or drug users or severely mentally ill or a combination of all 3. I'm very concerned about any potential meetings. I've read several articles about how the internet has changed how adoption searches are being done -- and not for the better. While it is easier to 'find' each other, meetings are often done on the spur of the moment and without counseling in place to help all members of the triad with the impact. I'm glad that you are helping her with this. [/QUOTE]
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