Meetings next week with teachers

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Ropefree, Jan 24, 2009.

  1. Ropefree

    Ropefree Banned

    Went the the school and waited to speak to the only person who responded
    this week.
    The VP and I talked about the fact that my son can get top grades as it clear in most of his assignments and quizes and tests. So what, I asked, is preventing him from receiving the teacher involvement for him to follow the details to also have the full benefits of his ability and that is top grades?
    The hokey system in place now, which revolves around me prompting the school through the 504 specialist to provide me with the weekly progress reports and the assignments due or missed work is not effective in such occations as the weeks past where the information is not forth coming and results in me receiving to little and late notice thereby preventing this from
    serving in any meaningful way the student they are obligated by law serve
    as teachers.
    Again I asked about the follow up IQ assessments to determine if the assumptions that the school has balanced their current approach is ruled in or ruled out. I pointed out that based soully on the testing from 5th grade at this point it appears that the writing issue (his lowest score then) may not have been resolved by the typing as all the subjects he is having the grades at the B level are those which use typing for all work.
    What I am feeling about this after all the meetings I have already attended is that the teachers do know and I am going to tease out something from all this by the end of next week.
    Meanwhile I am having terrible backpain this week and everything is just a living hell for me. The only reason I keep going on this site is that it is one of the few places I find any ideas for coping through this time. i feel so isolated and limited and it is just to important not to try and motivate for a solution.
    while there at the school I saw the nitwit Special Education loaf who was so indifferant and what I heard coming out of his mouth happened to be him gleefully telling the vp that "if the paperwork is submitted it will still delay by 30 days anyway" as if it is a good thing. Delay, put off, apologise,repeat as needed.:faint:
     
  2. Nancy423

    Nancy423 do I have to be the mom?

    ((HUGS)) sorry you're hurting so much. Wondering if this stress may be manifesting as some of that pain.....??
    Hope you get some resolution to the communication. It stinks that they're not following thru on something THEY suggested!
     
  3. Ropefree

    Ropefree Banned

    nancy423: I wish the back pain was from the stress of this. No I took medication for my pain as per my doctor and it got me sleeping it did. And the morning after since I have been in trouble. And I am not interested in going back to the doctor because they do not help my with my back in anyway. I need a chiropractor and my insurance doesn't touch chiropractic.
    Thanks though. I really wish it was stress. Stress is also a drag and terrible but it does not make everything such a misery. I stood in my kitchen looking at my cat this morning because somehow the catfood bag was down on the floor level. From my point of veiw it might as well have been on the moon. Like everyone else my cat, who I am quite certain does love me, anticipates that I will take care of their needs.
    And now I will be taking these meetings on also and as much as it is important to me that I do what I can to help my son...I need to go sit through those meetings as much as most people need to be stuck with hot needles and electricuted a little for the course of the hour or so.:peaceful:
     
  4. Nancy423

    Nancy423 do I have to be the mom?

    you sound very much like a good friend of mine. she's had back pain for YEARS and has been on workman's comp disability. the lawyers always told her who she could see etc and it was getting old fast. those docs they sent her to did nothing for her pain. And she's got 3 kids and a hubby who's hardly home. (business trips) so that's why I drew the comparison....eveyone counts on YOU to take care of them but who takes care of you?

    glad you got SOME sleep. Seems we just cannot function with-o it.
     
  5. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    Do any of the teachers post the week's assignments online? That could certainly help you stay one step ahead of difficult child to make sure he's doing his work.

    We have similar issues here with difficult child 1. That's why I'm seeking an outside evaluation for him.
     
  6. Ropefree

    Ropefree Banned

    gvcmom: Terrific point. The screwy hokey system is I contact the school weekly and they respond (or not). The really unfortunate situation is that this hokey system is so meaningless in terms of the school matching any type of accomidation as per his IEP/504 status (they bumped him but did not test for change since he was on IEP)
    and then the teachers, 504 adopt this argument where parent is defending herself.
    My ire was raised when the schools hokey nonsence resulted in me hearing or reading e-mail that suggests implys and shows great grades...and then when the
    quarter or semester grades are arriving they are sharing with me that the grades he"earned" are less.
    As for what it is that is my role for the school to provide the time and attention appropriate for this student in the classrooms he attends and under the care of the 504 what I am told is "they do not know what to do"
    I think this demotrates that they need someone who DOES KNOW to consult with them and teach them and that the pretense here is where the schools use the delays and the proceedures to block access when these are in place to motivate them to ACT THEMSELVES!
    Given the families of children who do qualify for IEP and 504 are placed in an adversarial relationship requiring a lawyer to interact with the DOE for each student who is part of normal range or desisively outside of normal ranges in terms of population presentation of whatever the diagnosis and needs are is exhausting.
     
  7. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    It IS exhausting. And I have been in the same position as you with the school dragging its feet over testing, claiming they can't do anything, blah, blah, blah. That was last year in 7th grade. This year, I'm seeking a private consult so I can walk through the doors and drop the document that will be worth its weight in gold on their desks and tell them what to do! I may not have anything to put in place for this year, but at least for highschool I'll know what specifics to ask for to support him better.
     
  8. Ropefree

    Ropefree Banned

    Gvcmom. when I call around at what serves for the legal reps here they already have talked with me befor and they always want me to either send signed releases to someone I have never laid eyes on and will not be meeting anytime soon, or they want me to schedule to attend their event where they "educate" parents ( have a bad health and I do not need to be sitting through some long thing to check out if it is usefull for me) or they say I am doing so well advocating on my own(?)

    The one I did get all the info for and paid to fax it over at my exspence never even returned my call or responded in anyway. I think because I can not pay out of pocket for the legal representation.

    Good for you, though, do that with the gold standard paperwork. It is to bad when these things are pushed on them that it doesn't audimaticly ring a bell and get an investigation underway trickling top down in the district.
    Maybe when the new funds for IEP are passed in congress the DOE can be srutinized with the same federal intensity that the dept of human services and ssa are so handy with for their reciepiiants.

    Thanks for caring and I am making it known thanks to imput here that now I do know that every time in each year I did tell the principle, vp, iep/504 specialist and teachers that I did want the re-evaluation since grade 8,9,10 and now 11 the forms were in the office and at anytime they could have handed the paper sheets to me.
     
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