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Might see my estranged parents for the 1st time in 5 years. What to do??!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 378189" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Well crud.</p><p></p><p>How good are you at keeping your game face on? You know that one we told Beth to take off? lol </p><p></p><p>My eldest bro was the source of alot of childhood trauma/pain. While I've delt with it and let go of it........does not mean we'll ever be close or that I want him in my life.</p><p></p><p>My Mom had him bring her over for a visit oh about 2 yrs ago. I had my game face in place before he hit the front porch. Politeness is what I hit him with..........while paying 99 percent of my attention to Mom. (who isn't really that much better lmao) I treated him like a perfect stranger. Which since I hadn't seen him in oh, about 20 yrs, he really was.......except that he has never changed.</p><p></p><p>See, you're a grown up now. You get to decide how this plays out. You can either flat out ignore them.......or hit them with uber sweet politeness and treat them like utter strangers. Even with politeness you don't have to engage in conversation, "family" hugs, ect. Know what I mean? </p><p></p><p>Since little easy child already has so much anxiety going on........personally I'd be uber polite and keep a fair distance away from them while pretending they aren't even there as much as possible. Do your best and try to relax and enjoy little easy child's accomplishment and this moment with him. This is ALL about HIM........keep focused on that and you should be ok.</p><p></p><p>Can you tell I've had to do this many times over the years?? lol<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 378189, member: 84"] Well crud. How good are you at keeping your game face on? You know that one we told Beth to take off? lol My eldest bro was the source of alot of childhood trauma/pain. While I've delt with it and let go of it........does not mean we'll ever be close or that I want him in my life. My Mom had him bring her over for a visit oh about 2 yrs ago. I had my game face in place before he hit the front porch. Politeness is what I hit him with..........while paying 99 percent of my attention to Mom. (who isn't really that much better lmao) I treated him like a perfect stranger. Which since I hadn't seen him in oh, about 20 yrs, he really was.......except that he has never changed. See, you're a grown up now. You get to decide how this plays out. You can either flat out ignore them.......or hit them with uber sweet politeness and treat them like utter strangers. Even with politeness you don't have to engage in conversation, "family" hugs, ect. Know what I mean? Since little easy child already has so much anxiety going on........personally I'd be uber polite and keep a fair distance away from them while pretending they aren't even there as much as possible. Do your best and try to relax and enjoy little easy child's accomplishment and this moment with him. This is ALL about HIM........keep focused on that and you should be ok. Can you tell I've had to do this many times over the years?? lol:raspberry-tounge: (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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