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Might see my estranged parents for the 1st time in 5 years. What to do??!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 378205" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi,</p><p> </p><p>That's a rough one, also bites that ex h would do that. I dont' know the full story yet it seems like there is no talking to ex h about it and stating that it isnt' the right thing to do. I think all too many times when we are faced in these types of situations with-estranged family members that have done some type of harm onto us we can go back into that place in time when around them, and all those feelings as you said can return. As if it were just yesterday sort of thing.</p><p> </p><p>My best advice to you is it seems like your stuck in this and just keep reminding yourself of who you are a strong, confident woman a mother etc. like the other's said keep it simple be polite, deep breath, i would think to bring others also so you aren't sitting there alone watching the game. so you can easily redirect yourself.</p><p> </p><p>not to be personal, yet do you have any fears in regards to the kids being around them? If not, than that's what I personally would do. If you can't get friends bring a book. </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry you have to calm husband at the same time your going thru your own emotions, men can be sooo charming at times lol. </p><p> </p><p>life is too short, as we all know and as long as you feel there are no safety issues surrounding this than i'd say be calm and cool get thru it and you don't really know what the future will bring. they say whomever they are (clearly ppl from the peanut gallery <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ) that forigving those with whom have done harm to you is healing within itself. Not to do it for them and break bread or anything yet just getting to that place and saying you know what i'm going to release this now and forgive. it releases all that junk, trust me i've had alot of junk with-my dad who recently passed. I was estranged from him since i was 17, we spoke on phone once a year, he'd send money for girls. yet i kept my distance and kept my girls away from him. yet at end of day if i had been able to be there at his death bed and forgive him that would of been KEY for me. not him, ME. </p><p> </p><p>anyway, good luck you will be fine your tough <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> and especially when it comes to something for the kids you will be able to get thru it.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 378205, member: 4514"] hi, That's a rough one, also bites that ex h would do that. I dont' know the full story yet it seems like there is no talking to ex h about it and stating that it isnt' the right thing to do. I think all too many times when we are faced in these types of situations with-estranged family members that have done some type of harm onto us we can go back into that place in time when around them, and all those feelings as you said can return. As if it were just yesterday sort of thing. My best advice to you is it seems like your stuck in this and just keep reminding yourself of who you are a strong, confident woman a mother etc. like the other's said keep it simple be polite, deep breath, i would think to bring others also so you aren't sitting there alone watching the game. so you can easily redirect yourself. not to be personal, yet do you have any fears in regards to the kids being around them? If not, than that's what I personally would do. If you can't get friends bring a book. I'm sorry you have to calm husband at the same time your going thru your own emotions, men can be sooo charming at times lol. life is too short, as we all know and as long as you feel there are no safety issues surrounding this than i'd say be calm and cool get thru it and you don't really know what the future will bring. they say whomever they are (clearly ppl from the peanut gallery :) ) that forigving those with whom have done harm to you is healing within itself. Not to do it for them and break bread or anything yet just getting to that place and saying you know what i'm going to release this now and forgive. it releases all that junk, trust me i've had alot of junk with-my dad who recently passed. I was estranged from him since i was 17, we spoke on phone once a year, he'd send money for girls. yet i kept my distance and kept my girls away from him. yet at end of day if i had been able to be there at his death bed and forgive him that would of been KEY for me. not him, ME. anyway, good luck you will be fine your tough :) and especially when it comes to something for the kids you will be able to get thru it. (((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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