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Might see my estranged parents for the 1st time in 5 years. What to do??!!
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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 378208" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Wow Trinity! You're right, this does absolutely bite. </p><p> </p><p>I have to agree with the others...perfect game face. Polite, short responses are key right here. No matter what the circumstances, you have to say to yourself "I'm the better person and I won't sink to their level." Keep it running through your mind for the next couple of days so that it's a background "white noise" in your head - almost as a mantra if you will.</p><p> </p><p>This allows several things to occur. </p><p> </p><p>One: it will soothe you from the second you lay eyes on them (by the way if you have a picture somewhere of them, pull it out, put it in an obvious place and force yourself to look at it so that you're somewhat "desensitised" to the visual of them.</p><p> </p><p>Two: it will give you the power to dismiss anything that they say or do wrong</p><p> </p><p>Three: it will empower you to take any shots as a glancing blow</p><p> </p><p>Also, be prepared for them to look a lot older - five years of no communication means that different health issues may have come and gone or may still be there - I don't know how old your parents are, but they may be trying to reunite because they're becoming more aware of their own mortality.</p><p> </p><p>Civil politeness is a powerful thing - it allows you to approach any situation with grace and dignity (which we all know you have!) AND is disarms your opponent so that when the "chips fall" they don't suspect a thing!</p><p> </p><p>Keep little easy child close in your heart and his picture or something important to you in your pocket. If they stroke a nerve, open your palm and look at it and know that YOU are the superior in the situation and that your resolve will teach him a huge lesson later on in life. That knowledge will allow you the fortitude to withstand any test pushed on you.</p><p> </p><p>Keeping you in my mind with thoughts of strength and resolve (with some bead rattling thrown in to boot!),</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 378208, member: 3814"] Wow Trinity! You're right, this does absolutely bite. I have to agree with the others...perfect game face. Polite, short responses are key right here. No matter what the circumstances, you have to say to yourself "I'm the better person and I won't sink to their level." Keep it running through your mind for the next couple of days so that it's a background "white noise" in your head - almost as a mantra if you will. This allows several things to occur. One: it will soothe you from the second you lay eyes on them (by the way if you have a picture somewhere of them, pull it out, put it in an obvious place and force yourself to look at it so that you're somewhat "desensitised" to the visual of them. Two: it will give you the power to dismiss anything that they say or do wrong Three: it will empower you to take any shots as a glancing blow Also, be prepared for them to look a lot older - five years of no communication means that different health issues may have come and gone or may still be there - I don't know how old your parents are, but they may be trying to reunite because they're becoming more aware of their own mortality. Civil politeness is a powerful thing - it allows you to approach any situation with grace and dignity (which we all know you have!) AND is disarms your opponent so that when the "chips fall" they don't suspect a thing! Keep little easy child close in your heart and his picture or something important to you in your pocket. If they stroke a nerve, open your palm and look at it and know that YOU are the superior in the situation and that your resolve will teach him a huge lesson later on in life. That knowledge will allow you the fortitude to withstand any test pushed on you. Keeping you in my mind with thoughts of strength and resolve (with some bead rattling thrown in to boot!), Beth [/QUOTE]
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