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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 123756" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Well, here's the deal...</p><p></p><p>Talked to wife this morning, and she's pretty upset that McWeedy can find cash for booze (and other stuff) while we're paying to keep his skinny buttocks out of jail. So I calmly suggested that if McW has money for booze, he can spend it instead on his drug tests.</p><p></p><p>Of course, that would mean he would actually have to STAY at work, and not leave early every chance he got. So, bright and early, wife was the one to spring it on him: we're NOT going to pay for his drug tests any more. 17 bucks a pop, once or twice a week. We'll pay for two more to give him a chance to start working again (that'll get him through a week). After that, pay to play or go to jail.</p><p></p><p>I followed it up with another caveat, and wife backed me up: There's a 700 dollar supervision fee for diversion; I paid half up front, and the other half is due at the end of March. I said that if he pulled another all-nighter without permission, he could come up with the balance of his supervison fee as well, or go to jail. wife said "Yep".</p><p></p><p>In keeping with the gradual response idea, wife also suggested that he'll have to start paying rent if things get worse. She's already refusing to wash any more of his clothes.</p><p></p><p>Don't know how long this will last, but at least it's a start. The look on McW's face when wife announced that we weren't paying for any more drug tests was <strong><u>priceless!</u></strong></p><p></p><p>I also took McW's phone away, probably for good. He texted his 'bro last night saying "nah, dude, I have to save my money for beer tonight". Earlier this evening, one of his drug buddies sent him a text asking if he wanted some Xanax. I called him back and said "thanks for the kind offer, but my son is on Diversion and will go to jail if he does drugs. So it would be in his - and YOUR - best interest if you stopped offering drugs to him".</p><p></p><p>I'm sure I'll catch hell from McWeedy for crabbing at his so-called "friend", but I'm sick of sitting back and doing nothing. And wife isn't on board with the "hit the road" solution, but she's taking the lead on some more serious consequences.</p><p></p><p>In a sick sort of way, I find myself looking at this from the outside, and I wonder why I'm more aggressive and less scared. Pushing him out, he could die. He could end up in jail. He could end up in any one of a host of other bad situations. But, despite that, I'm pushing as hard as I dare to bring the pain. I'm even considering bringing his phone to his PO on Monday.</p><p></p><p>Oh well, we'll see how it goes. It's another weekend night, and I'm sure McW has something special planned.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /></p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 123756, member: 3579"] Well, here's the deal... Talked to wife this morning, and she's pretty upset that McWeedy can find cash for booze (and other stuff) while we're paying to keep his skinny buttocks out of jail. So I calmly suggested that if McW has money for booze, he can spend it instead on his drug tests. Of course, that would mean he would actually have to STAY at work, and not leave early every chance he got. So, bright and early, wife was the one to spring it on him: we're NOT going to pay for his drug tests any more. 17 bucks a pop, once or twice a week. We'll pay for two more to give him a chance to start working again (that'll get him through a week). After that, pay to play or go to jail. I followed it up with another caveat, and wife backed me up: There's a 700 dollar supervision fee for diversion; I paid half up front, and the other half is due at the end of March. I said that if he pulled another all-nighter without permission, he could come up with the balance of his supervison fee as well, or go to jail. wife said "Yep". In keeping with the gradual response idea, wife also suggested that he'll have to start paying rent if things get worse. She's already refusing to wash any more of his clothes. Don't know how long this will last, but at least it's a start. The look on McW's face when wife announced that we weren't paying for any more drug tests was [B][U]priceless![/U][/B] I also took McW's phone away, probably for good. He texted his 'bro last night saying "nah, dude, I have to save my money for beer tonight". Earlier this evening, one of his drug buddies sent him a text asking if he wanted some Xanax. I called him back and said "thanks for the kind offer, but my son is on Diversion and will go to jail if he does drugs. So it would be in his - and YOUR - best interest if you stopped offering drugs to him". I'm sure I'll catch hell from McWeedy for crabbing at his so-called "friend", but I'm sick of sitting back and doing nothing. And wife isn't on board with the "hit the road" solution, but she's taking the lead on some more serious consequences. In a sick sort of way, I find myself looking at this from the outside, and I wonder why I'm more aggressive and less scared. Pushing him out, he could die. He could end up in jail. He could end up in any one of a host of other bad situations. But, despite that, I'm pushing as hard as I dare to bring the pain. I'm even considering bringing his phone to his PO on Monday. Oh well, we'll see how it goes. It's another weekend night, and I'm sure McW has something special planned.:2hot::2hot::2hot: Mikey [/QUOTE]
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