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Mikey? Just checkin' on you....
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<blockquote data-quote="ck1" data-source="post: 123824" data-attributes="member: 3767"><p>Hi Mikey: Good to say that wife is moving towards getting tougher. Although, I wouldn't have agreed to pay any for any of his fines, tests, fees, etc. and certainly wouldn't give him another chance or else you won't pay the remaining half of the diversion, but that's just me. Again, it's good to see that you and she are moving towards being on the same page.</p><p></p><p>What the terms of diversion? If he has a curfew, aren't you bound to report that he isn't following it? Did you see the thread that Ant'sMom recently started, it's a letter written by a women who goes to the "Parent Survival Skills Training" meetings. It's a group started by two probation officers (one is a supervisor) of the juvenile D&A division. Anyway, I go to these meetings. When my son first came home from Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), they told me it's impossible for a PO to call to check on every kid (neither of them are my son's PO). As PO's, they rely on the parents to get the information. When my difficult child tried telling me that he'd only be caught if PO happened to call to check on him, I said NO NO NO, PO will know everything because I WILL TELL HIM!!! When difficult child failed a drug test last week, I sent an email to his PO. The drug difficult child took was an OTC and now he's saying he just took a larger dose because he didn't feel well, but I don't believe him and I don't care. It was wrong.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, my point of this is, since wife is moving in the right direction of holding McW to higher standards, maybe you can nudge her to actually talk with his diversion officer and let him know what's really going on. You're not doing McW any favors by allowing him to do whatever he wants. How is this preparing him for life? He's not going to suddenly just stop some day. He obviously needs help, the sooner the better.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!!!! Doing the right thing is not easy or free of pain, we do it because it's right and our kids (G'sFG and easy child's) depend on us to be good role models.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ck1, post: 123824, member: 3767"] Hi Mikey: Good to say that wife is moving towards getting tougher. Although, I wouldn't have agreed to pay any for any of his fines, tests, fees, etc. and certainly wouldn't give him another chance or else you won't pay the remaining half of the diversion, but that's just me. Again, it's good to see that you and she are moving towards being on the same page. What the terms of diversion? If he has a curfew, aren't you bound to report that he isn't following it? Did you see the thread that Ant'sMom recently started, it's a letter written by a women who goes to the "Parent Survival Skills Training" meetings. It's a group started by two probation officers (one is a supervisor) of the juvenile D&A division. Anyway, I go to these meetings. When my son first came home from Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), they told me it's impossible for a PO to call to check on every kid (neither of them are my son's PO). As PO's, they rely on the parents to get the information. When my difficult child tried telling me that he'd only be caught if PO happened to call to check on him, I said NO NO NO, PO will know everything because I WILL TELL HIM!!! When difficult child failed a drug test last week, I sent an email to his PO. The drug difficult child took was an OTC and now he's saying he just took a larger dose because he didn't feel well, but I don't believe him and I don't care. It was wrong. Anyway, my point of this is, since wife is moving in the right direction of holding McW to higher standards, maybe you can nudge her to actually talk with his diversion officer and let him know what's really going on. You're not doing McW any favors by allowing him to do whatever he wants. How is this preparing him for life? He's not going to suddenly just stop some day. He obviously needs help, the sooner the better. Good luck!!!! Doing the right thing is not easy or free of pain, we do it because it's right and our kids (G'sFG and easy child's) depend on us to be good role models. [/QUOTE]
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