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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 164952" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">You know, things move at such a rapid speed in difficult child's life (although they never really 'change'), that I had already completely forgotten about the weasel...I think I had put that on a back burner. When she's not around, I honestly try to block any thoughts of her out of my head. I'm tired of talking about her and I'm tired of thinking up ways to help her or push her in the right direction - SHE ALREADY KNOWS THE WAY BUT CHOOSES NOT TO TAKE THAT PATH. Instead she prefers the superfast highway to ruin, with monkeyboy leading the way.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">BBK, I think the reason why she's jumping through hoops for monkeyboy now is BECAUSE of her date with weasel - to prove to him that she's not the conniving, lying, cheating girl he thinks she is....HAHAHAHA. I laugh because it is so ridiculous to me. The insanity of it all.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">Witz, at least I finally have H on my side. He slipped her $10 last night when she mentioned something about wanting ice cream, and I kicked him under the table. In every other way, he has been backing me up and not giving her money, till last night...boy did he regret that handout later last night. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">Last week when she came home from her visit with dear old biodad, she had a cool $115 in her pocket. Two days later she was broke and claimed she spent it all giving her friends money for gas. I want to know which friends, because back when she had a car, it seemed no one else did. Hmph. Liar. And she told me that her bioddad took her to a tattoo parlor to discuss with them how she would go about getting her body modification and piercing license...WTH?</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">Janet, I have opened up my home to a few of my kids' friends and I would do it again in a hearbeat. The difference was that those friends were not complete drips. They either worked for my H or in my yard, they took out the trash, kept a curfew, were respectable, sat with us for dinner every night, and cleaned up after themselves. Above all, they respected H and me. I do not think, wait, I KNOW, that Monkeyboy is not one of those kinds of human beings. He sleeps till noon, goes fishing, gets high and complains to everyone why it's all their fault his life inhales deeply. His life, and difficult child's life, will never improve until they are willing to put a little backbone into it, which at this time they are not and I'm tired of giving handouts to people who treat me like garbage.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">The other night I read an IM between MB and difficult child in which they discuss the fact that we're going to help easy child get into a new car. Her current car needs about $3500 in repairs, we only paid $4000, so we feel it's stupid to put more cash into it. We can sell hers and she can use it as a down payment and get into something newer and more economical. Well, this just doesn't sit well with difficult child, nor apparently, MB. They were motherf____ing us all over the place for helping easy child but not difficult child, saying things like, "No doubt you'll get another piece of **** while easy child is driving a nice new car - that's messed up. Why do they do everything for easy child and nothing for you?!" to which difficult child responds, "My dad says its because I was born second!" I just about fell on the floor. But you know, I'm at a point now where I don't even bother explaining it to difficult child, because I know that she KNOWS the deal. easy child is working her tail off, difficult child is doing NOTHING. God I love her, but if she can't even help herself, how can anyone else and moreso, why would we? I feel we've given her ample opportunities and plenty of time to work this out for herself. If she prefers to crash on some kids couch with her drip of a boyfriend, let her, right? I kind of wish she'd come home to pack a bag and just go. I'd have to change all the locks, but hey, it's worth it to me not to have the worry that they will be hanging at my house when I'm not home. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Garamond'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">Yeesh. </span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 164952, member: 2211"] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]You know, things move at such a rapid speed in difficult child's life (although they never really 'change'), that I had already completely forgotten about the weasel...I think I had put that on a back burner. When she's not around, I honestly try to block any thoughts of her out of my head. I'm tired of talking about her and I'm tired of thinking up ways to help her or push her in the right direction - SHE ALREADY KNOWS THE WAY BUT CHOOSES NOT TO TAKE THAT PATH. Instead she prefers the superfast highway to ruin, with monkeyboy leading the way.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]BBK, I think the reason why she's jumping through hoops for monkeyboy now is BECAUSE of her date with weasel - to prove to him that she's not the conniving, lying, cheating girl he thinks she is....HAHAHAHA. I laugh because it is so ridiculous to me. The insanity of it all.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]Witz, at least I finally have H on my side. He slipped her $10 last night when she mentioned something about wanting ice cream, and I kicked him under the table. In every other way, he has been backing me up and not giving her money, till last night...boy did he regret that handout later last night. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]Last week when she came home from her visit with dear old biodad, she had a cool $115 in her pocket. Two days later she was broke and claimed she spent it all giving her friends money for gas. I want to know which friends, because back when she had a car, it seemed no one else did. Hmph. Liar. And she told me that her bioddad took her to a tattoo parlor to discuss with them how she would go about getting her body modification and piercing license...WTH?[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]Janet, I have opened up my home to a few of my kids' friends and I would do it again in a hearbeat. The difference was that those friends were not complete drips. They either worked for my H or in my yard, they took out the trash, kept a curfew, were respectable, sat with us for dinner every night, and cleaned up after themselves. Above all, they respected H and me. I do not think, wait, I KNOW, that Monkeyboy is not one of those kinds of human beings. He sleeps till noon, goes fishing, gets high and complains to everyone why it's all their fault his life inhales deeply. His life, and difficult child's life, will never improve until they are willing to put a little backbone into it, which at this time they are not and I'm tired of giving handouts to people who treat me like garbage.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]The other night I read an IM between MB and difficult child in which they discuss the fact that we're going to help easy child get into a new car. Her current car needs about $3500 in repairs, we only paid $4000, so we feel it's stupid to put more cash into it. We can sell hers and she can use it as a down payment and get into something newer and more economical. Well, this just doesn't sit well with difficult child, nor apparently, MB. They were motherf____ing us all over the place for helping easy child but not difficult child, saying things like, "No doubt you'll get another piece of **** while easy child is driving a nice new car - that's messed up. Why do they do everything for easy child and nothing for you?!" to which difficult child responds, "My dad says its because I was born second!" I just about fell on the floor. But you know, I'm at a point now where I don't even bother explaining it to difficult child, because I know that she KNOWS the deal. easy child is working her tail off, difficult child is doing NOTHING. God I love her, but if she can't even help herself, how can anyone else and moreso, why would we? I feel we've given her ample opportunities and plenty of time to work this out for herself. If she prefers to crash on some kids couch with her drip of a boyfriend, let her, right? I kind of wish she'd come home to pack a bag and just go. I'd have to change all the locks, but hey, it's worth it to me not to have the worry that they will be hanging at my house when I'm not home. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Garamond][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]Yeesh. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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