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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 395106" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Hmmm Mattsmom is on to something..............</p><p></p><p>Jena have you ever used the guilt card with your mom? I'm sure your mom has used it on you. You know the one, I'm sure. So..........You can always toss it right back at her. Well. ya know mom you did <strong>say</strong> you were coming, and the kids are <strong>sooooooo </strong>counting on it, they're going to be utterly broken hearted and what are they going to think?? Why it just wouldn't be xmas without you here!! Why if you don't come it will <strong>ruin</strong> their whole xmas!</p><p></p><p>I'll tell ya there is never a controlling mother more stupified than one who has her own tactics used on her. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> </p><p></p><p>I actually used this one on my mom one year. We were doing the enormous family dinner with mother in law, a huge tradition. Mom and step dad were invited and quite welcome, but mom always felt jealous of mother in law and sort of felt like, well I dunno mother in law lavished the kids with gifts and love and the whole works.........guess mom sort of hated that even while she understood it. So mom didn't want to go but tried to get me to skip all that and stay at my house xmas day with her and stepdad. I said no. This was planned every single year, she knew that. Her plans however were based on whim 99 percent of the time, that and due to distance the weather factored in too. But she didn't want to go to mother in law's dinner and dug in her heels.</p><p></p><p>She did pretty good, she held out 3 days of the above treatment, until I pulled out my wild card.......I put the kids on the phone and had them give her the same routine. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/devil.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":devil:" title="devil :devil:" data-shortname=":devil:" /> Hahaha no way could she say no to the kids. So we did mother in law's dinner and then came home and spent the rest of xmas day with them. (we'd also had xmas eve together too and the day after)</p><p></p><p>She never pulled it again.</p><p></p><p>You can also use the : Well mom c'mon, you're married, this is HIS family, what am I supposed to do? You've got me caught in the middle. I can't just tell his family they're not welcome on xmas...........Then play it to the hilt. Little sniffing and tears does wonders. lol</p><p></p><p>If she is really controlling you've got to have some of her routines down pat, turn them around and use them against her.</p><p></p><p>And next year, lay out the way YOU want xmas to be in SEPTEMBER. </p><p></p><p>Mattsmom's is good too.............mine just comes from dealing with a control freak my whole life. I just don't have the patience for it these days. lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 395106, member: 84"] Hmmm Mattsmom is on to something.............. Jena have you ever used the guilt card with your mom? I'm sure your mom has used it on you. You know the one, I'm sure. So..........You can always toss it right back at her. Well. ya know mom you did [B]say[/B] you were coming, and the kids are [B]sooooooo [/B]counting on it, they're going to be utterly broken hearted and what are they going to think?? Why it just wouldn't be xmas without you here!! Why if you don't come it will [B]ruin[/B] their whole xmas! I'll tell ya there is never a controlling mother more stupified than one who has her own tactics used on her. :rofl: I actually used this one on my mom one year. We were doing the enormous family dinner with mother in law, a huge tradition. Mom and step dad were invited and quite welcome, but mom always felt jealous of mother in law and sort of felt like, well I dunno mother in law lavished the kids with gifts and love and the whole works.........guess mom sort of hated that even while she understood it. So mom didn't want to go but tried to get me to skip all that and stay at my house xmas day with her and stepdad. I said no. This was planned every single year, she knew that. Her plans however were based on whim 99 percent of the time, that and due to distance the weather factored in too. But she didn't want to go to mother in law's dinner and dug in her heels. She did pretty good, she held out 3 days of the above treatment, until I pulled out my wild card.......I put the kids on the phone and had them give her the same routine. :devil: Hahaha no way could she say no to the kids. So we did mother in law's dinner and then came home and spent the rest of xmas day with them. (we'd also had xmas eve together too and the day after) She never pulled it again. You can also use the : Well mom c'mon, you're married, this is HIS family, what am I supposed to do? You've got me caught in the middle. I can't just tell his family they're not welcome on xmas...........Then play it to the hilt. Little sniffing and tears does wonders. lol If she is really controlling you've got to have some of her routines down pat, turn them around and use them against her. And next year, lay out the way YOU want xmas to be in SEPTEMBER. Mattsmom's is good too.............mine just comes from dealing with a control freak my whole life. I just don't have the patience for it these days. lol [/QUOTE]
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