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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 35558" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Violence is my hot button. Regardless of whether difficult child hit your easy child, shoved her, or just terrorized her verbally, it was a violent attack if she had to lock herself in the bathroom. Completely unacceptable. There needs to be, in my humble opinion, a very firm line drawn in the sand that there will *not* be a repeat ever again. If husband terrorized you to the point of hiding in the bathroom, what would you do? easy child has the right to be safe in her own home. Quite frankly, I don't care if my kid is depressed, manic, whatever - he does not have the right to terrorize the rest of us, period. He is accountable for his behaviors unless he's flat out psychotic.</p><p></p><p>Re: the music. Literally just went thru this yesterday. Put a *lot* of thought into how to handle it. Our issue isn't rap, it's Black/Death metal. But, I totally understand the obsessive thinking. My difficult child seems to just be consumed by it. If it weren't for the obsession, I could probably let it slide, kind of don't ask, don't tell. But it is coloring his entire life, along with- some other not so great influences. We put our foot down yesterday - it all stops, now. Rule has *always* been that if grades are good and attitude is decent, we'd let the other stuff go as long as it's not illegal, dangerous, etc. However, grades bite, attitude is that nasty one of entitlement and general irritation, and he's just not doing what he is supposed to be doing right now. Plus, he's not willing to do what he is supposed to be doing, even to regain access to his music, black clothes, and Magic. Fine - makes my job easy. Is he ticked? You better believe it. But also, in some really weird way, I think he's relieved too. Can't put my finger on it, but after a 2 hour discussion yesterday where we continued to point out that the vileness that he's listening to is influencing his overall self, I think he kind of heard us. We've taken the choice away for now. </p><p></p><p>Right now, I'm tired of trying to balance his wants. We've also tried to accommodate him but for every inch, he wants 10 miles (kind of like your difficult child's poor sob story about not having internet in his room - egads). Unless and until there is a dramatic improvement in attitude, in effort, in grades, in school behaviors, it's *my* rules and my discretion, period. Do to get. </p><p></p><p>Of course, his response was we could only keep him in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) until he's 21, and he's perfectly happy to wait until then. I don't know whether to laugh or cry... but it's his choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 35558, member: 8"] Violence is my hot button. Regardless of whether difficult child hit your easy child, shoved her, or just terrorized her verbally, it was a violent attack if she had to lock herself in the bathroom. Completely unacceptable. There needs to be, in my humble opinion, a very firm line drawn in the sand that there will *not* be a repeat ever again. If husband terrorized you to the point of hiding in the bathroom, what would you do? easy child has the right to be safe in her own home. Quite frankly, I don't care if my kid is depressed, manic, whatever - he does not have the right to terrorize the rest of us, period. He is accountable for his behaviors unless he's flat out psychotic. Re: the music. Literally just went thru this yesterday. Put a *lot* of thought into how to handle it. Our issue isn't rap, it's Black/Death metal. But, I totally understand the obsessive thinking. My difficult child seems to just be consumed by it. If it weren't for the obsession, I could probably let it slide, kind of don't ask, don't tell. But it is coloring his entire life, along with- some other not so great influences. We put our foot down yesterday - it all stops, now. Rule has *always* been that if grades are good and attitude is decent, we'd let the other stuff go as long as it's not illegal, dangerous, etc. However, grades bite, attitude is that nasty one of entitlement and general irritation, and he's just not doing what he is supposed to be doing right now. Plus, he's not willing to do what he is supposed to be doing, even to regain access to his music, black clothes, and Magic. Fine - makes my job easy. Is he ticked? You better believe it. But also, in some really weird way, I think he's relieved too. Can't put my finger on it, but after a 2 hour discussion yesterday where we continued to point out that the vileness that he's listening to is influencing his overall self, I think he kind of heard us. We've taken the choice away for now. Right now, I'm tired of trying to balance his wants. We've also tried to accommodate him but for every inch, he wants 10 miles (kind of like your difficult child's poor sob story about not having internet in his room - egads). Unless and until there is a dramatic improvement in attitude, in effort, in grades, in school behaviors, it's *my* rules and my discretion, period. Do to get. Of course, his response was we could only keep him in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) until he's 21, and he's perfectly happy to wait until then. I don't know whether to laugh or cry... but it's his choice. [/QUOTE]
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